It's totally normal. I had the same BFF from age 5. We were very close, like sisters, and I put all my trust in her. We stayed in touch for most of our lives, until we were both having issues and all of our contact information changed through a series of events. Afterward, when I was ready to get back in touch with her, I kind of found her, but long story short, she never replied or responded to any attempt to communicate with her, and then she disappeared.
I've never had a friend I knew I could count on besides her. I'd trust people who seemed trustworthy, then find out everything I told them got reported to someone else, as well as the person's real thoughts/emotions/feelings/facts they knew. No one has ever been willing to be that close friend to me since her. It's like everyone else already has someone like that.
I'm hopeful that someday when I select the person I am with intimately for the rest of my life, that person can fill this capacity in some fashion, but I don't intend to put any expectations like that on anyone without building a relationship like that first. For now, my life feels very empty in that respect, as I have no one to trust with all my feelings, secrets, hopes, dreams, happiness, sadness, fears, supporting me through disappointments, helping me through hard times, celebrating the good times with me and always being there for me. I really miss that. So yes, it's very normal.
Is it normal to know you're nobody's best friend?
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It's totally normal. I had the same BFF from age 5. We were very close, like sisters, and I put all my trust in her. We stayed in touch for most of our lives, until we were both having issues and all of our contact information changed through a series of events. Afterward, when I was ready to get back in touch with her, I kind of found her, but long story short, she never replied or responded to any attempt to communicate with her, and then she disappeared.
I've never had a friend I knew I could count on besides her. I'd trust people who seemed trustworthy, then find out everything I told them got reported to someone else, as well as the person's real thoughts/emotions/feelings/facts they knew. No one has ever been willing to be that close friend to me since her. It's like everyone else already has someone like that.
I'm hopeful that someday when I select the person I am with intimately for the rest of my life, that person can fill this capacity in some fashion, but I don't intend to put any expectations like that on anyone without building a relationship like that first. For now, my life feels very empty in that respect, as I have no one to trust with all my feelings, secrets, hopes, dreams, happiness, sadness, fears, supporting me through disappointments, helping me through hard times, celebrating the good times with me and always being there for me. I really miss that. So yes, it's very normal.