Is it normal to keep talking about stuff when there is an accident?

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let us have this case. on a final project group consisting of 4 people, one of them having an accident where his house got burned down.

he mentioned the incident on the group chat, saying "my house got burned down".
the other three feels bad about it and said, "i am sorry to hear that."

after about one hour, they continue discussing about final project like nothing happened.

is it actually normal for those three people to continue talking about final project like that?

i feel like they should stop for at least one day. or if the final project is urgent, they should create other group chat and continue there for a while.

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  • olderdude-xx
    3 years ago

    Here's a simple test to use when deciding on how much time you should spend on it: How much will this event or issue potentially affect me, 1 month, 3 months, 1 year, 5 years, 10 years from now?

    If it will have no meaningful impact on your future... spend enough time now to acknowledge it and comfort friends, and move on to the issues that will affect you in the future.

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  • Boojum
    3 years ago

    A basic fact: when something awful happens to you, nobody else will truly feel your pain, and no one is obliged to even try to understand it. Your classmates do not have a moral duty to listen to you wittering on for hours about how traumatised you feel, and even close friends would find that incredibly boring after a while.

    Just how much can you really say about a house burning down and all the stuff you've lost? How many times do you need others to say they're sorry it happened to you? It's a really shitty thing to happen and it will take you some time to process that and to deal with all the practical problems it causes, but what exactly can some people who are presumably just classmates and not even really friends actually do to help with all that?

    It's a final project and therefore presumably important to the final grades those in the group will receive. It would be reasonable for you to feel that other things are more important to you right now, but it's not reasonable for you to expect others to feel the same.

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    3 years ago

    One hour seems long enough

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    3 years ago

    I agree with you, it is insensitive to talk about the project when the guy is going through one of the worst moments in his life. Who gives a fuck about a group project when someone has lost everything?

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