That's really special that you had the chance to say goodbye and talk about the past together. It's not often that people are afforded such an opportunity.
It's interesting that you sensed it and felt compelled to reach out. And good that you didn't dismiss the instinct because so many people do and miss out.
I wanted to add one more thing. In your future relationship(s), if it ever comes up, don't allow anyone to bully you into eliminating those emails. Some might feel threatened by it and ask you to do something like that, but don't do it - they are just being unfair in their insecurities.
I appreciate your kind words. Indeed, I was just very fortunate to give my "last respects' to the person directly while they were still alive, rather than in a eulogy while weeping over their grave.
I just happen to be a highly intuitive person-lucky gift I was born with and serves me well in my relationships and career. I'm also glad I tuned in at the right time.
Mind your this gift of intuition is also a double-edge sword, I can sense bad things about to happen and it usually turns out to be right (though not always which is a blessing in a way).
Thanks for your advice-I think those who had suggested to delete the emails were well-intentioned but perhaps this is how they would try to cope with the loss of a loved-one.
I value everyone's opinion here and it helped me to weigh it out better and to your credit (and those who shared your perspective), I have also felt it's best to hold onto the emails for now, until one day I am ready to let them go (if ever).
Just to clarify though, I wasn't referring to the other commentors here who suggested you delete them, I was talking about people who you might be romantically involved with in the future. They might not understand and be angry if they knew you kept letters from a former lover (deceased or not); some people are jealous of past relationships and refuse to tolerate any reminders of their partner's past experiences.
No problem, even if you were referring to others, I know you meant well and that's all that counts. Also I do like strong, even contentious opinions because they help you look at things from a different perspective sometimes.
But I agree with you, I'd probably just keep this to myself anyways unless I was planning to get married-then I might share that information with the future spouse.
IIN to keep someone's letters/emails after they have passed away?
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That's really special that you had the chance to say goodbye and talk about the past together. It's not often that people are afforded such an opportunity.
It's interesting that you sensed it and felt compelled to reach out. And good that you didn't dismiss the instinct because so many people do and miss out.
I wanted to add one more thing. In your future relationship(s), if it ever comes up, don't allow anyone to bully you into eliminating those emails. Some might feel threatened by it and ask you to do something like that, but don't do it - they are just being unfair in their insecurities.
I'm sorry for the loss of your lover/friend.
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I appreciate your kind words. Indeed, I was just very fortunate to give my "last respects' to the person directly while they were still alive, rather than in a eulogy while weeping over their grave.
I just happen to be a highly intuitive person-lucky gift I was born with and serves me well in my relationships and career. I'm also glad I tuned in at the right time.
Mind your this gift of intuition is also a double-edge sword, I can sense bad things about to happen and it usually turns out to be right (though not always which is a blessing in a way).
Thanks for your advice-I think those who had suggested to delete the emails were well-intentioned but perhaps this is how they would try to cope with the loss of a loved-one.
I value everyone's opinion here and it helped me to weigh it out better and to your credit (and those who shared your perspective), I have also felt it's best to hold onto the emails for now, until one day I am ready to let them go (if ever).
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Glad to hear it. :)
Just to clarify though, I wasn't referring to the other commentors here who suggested you delete them, I was talking about people who you might be romantically involved with in the future. They might not understand and be angry if they knew you kept letters from a former lover (deceased or not); some people are jealous of past relationships and refuse to tolerate any reminders of their partner's past experiences.
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No problem, even if you were referring to others, I know you meant well and that's all that counts. Also I do like strong, even contentious opinions because they help you look at things from a different perspective sometimes.
But I agree with you, I'd probably just keep this to myself anyways unless I was planning to get married-then I might share that information with the future spouse.