Print the emails, delete them, then burn them and say goodbye. Let the fire consume your sadness and grief and leave you with closure. If the memories only upset you, don't hold onto them. Let them go and say goodbye. I am truly sorry for your loss. Find a way to honor their memory, you cannot mourn it forever.
Thanks, your thoughts are appreciated. With a few mouse clicks I can erase everything-but that's all I have of the person.
Ya I guess it'd probably be difficult to read older emails of the times we laughed and shared fun experiences together. The anticipation of when we'd meet next and so on. I'll admit that this person was a former lover of mine who also became a great friend.
I think for now I'm just going to leave them be-because once the emails are gone, it's forever (I could never get them back) and maybe in the future (like a year or so) I might be emotionally strong enough to read them in a more detached/dispassionate way.
I should add that I'm not in a puddle of tears over this or anything like that. I am upset but I believe I'm over the grieving of their loss. The first day I found out hit me the hardest but I'm better now.
Sometimes the best thing one can do is nothing-just wait and come back to the problem later on.
I think that's something I'll do when I decide that I want to let the person go forever. There might be a day in the future I'll do that, but at this time I want to hold on to their memory a little longer.
IIN to keep someone's letters/emails after they have passed away?
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Print the emails, delete them, then burn them and say goodbye. Let the fire consume your sadness and grief and leave you with closure. If the memories only upset you, don't hold onto them. Let them go and say goodbye. I am truly sorry for your loss. Find a way to honor their memory, you cannot mourn it forever.
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Thanks, your thoughts are appreciated. With a few mouse clicks I can erase everything-but that's all I have of the person.
Ya I guess it'd probably be difficult to read older emails of the times we laughed and shared fun experiences together. The anticipation of when we'd meet next and so on. I'll admit that this person was a former lover of mine who also became a great friend.
I think for now I'm just going to leave them be-because once the emails are gone, it's forever (I could never get them back) and maybe in the future (like a year or so) I might be emotionally strong enough to read them in a more detached/dispassionate way.
I should add that I'm not in a puddle of tears over this or anything like that. I am upset but I believe I'm over the grieving of their loss. The first day I found out hit me the hardest but I'm better now.
Sometimes the best thing one can do is nothing-just wait and come back to the problem later on.
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I like Howami's idea, delete them when you have a hard copy, then delete the hard copy ceremonially.
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I think that's something I'll do when I decide that I want to let the person go forever. There might be a day in the future I'll do that, but at this time I want to hold on to their memory a little longer.