Is it normal to just not care at all if your girlfriend comes or not?

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Don't let the title fool you! I'm not like inconsiderate in bed or anything. I can just never seem to make my girlfriend come during sex no matter what I do. She told me not to give up, but I think that, aside from oral stimulation, which I actually am good at, I can't make her come through just penetrative sex. I think it's because of my penis size or something. I'm 7inch long and have 5inch of girth. I think I just dont have enough girth to make her come. My dicks just too thin. I told her that from now on I'm just gonna eat her out to get her off and she got mad that I wasn't even gonna try to make her come during actual sex anymore, but can you honestly blame me? It's too hard! Like I actually can make her come if I rub her clit while I fuck her, but by the time I get it just right and she starts to come, I'm like not even having a good time anymore because instead of enjoying sex, I'm putting in a ton of effort rigorously trying to make her come. It's just really discouraging and I'd rather just go down on her to get her off and then have sex so that I can get off and call it a day, but she's not a fan of that idea.

Idk, I've heard that if you have a lot of girth (like 6inch+) you can make a girl come multiple times just by fucking her normally because the pressure of that girth will stimulate her g-spot so much that she'll just come from having you inside her.

This makes total sense to me and I feel like I'm just inadequate in the dick department and there's no way my pencil dick is gonna make her come from penetration alone, so I've kinda lost interest in even trying. Is this normal?

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago | pl

    I'm like your GF. I cant come through penetration only. There's TWO positions that has worked for me - Like EVER.

    Chest to chest, let her grind up against you.
    Or the same position with her atop of you.

    Anal stimulation works wonders as well.

    And for what its worth, i understand that she'd love to come through penetration sex BUT if you arent even willing to try it she will probably never feel relaxed enough to manage ...

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  • Defkiller
    11 years ago | pl

    Try it doggystyle or use a 'massager' on her clitoris.

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  • TerryVie
    11 years ago | pl

    i said it's normal, just because i can see what kind of frustration takes place here.

    I understand her, she wants to climax with you in her. Imagine you get to fuck her, but before you come, you always have to pull out a minute before and she'll then just jerk you off.
    Wouldn't you also prefer being inside her when you orgasm?

    However, some girls come easier, some have a harder time coming. For me, personally, it's rather simply, but my cousin is lucky if she comes once in a 45 minute-session.

    And similar to my cousin, your girl should "learn" that giving can be intensely pleasurable, too. Her husband at first went to intense lenghts to make sure she'd also come, including long foreplay and even toys, to the point she eventually felt so pressured into "having to come" that it was less enjoyable for both of them. By accepting that SOMETIMES, sex was just an enjoyable activity for the two of them with release for him, their sex life improved tremendously.

    What i am trying to say: Do not give up "caring" completely. Maybe try using toys...even a small "massager" can take care of that clitoral stimulation on which you'd have to focus otherwise. But try and get her to understand that while you are willing to put up this effort to make her enjoy it, sometimes you'd also want to just be carefree about it and think primarily of YOUR enjoyment. Meaning when it comes to actual sex, regardless of wether you went down on her before or not, you don't have to worry about wether she comes or not, you can just go ahead and cum when you feel like it.

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  • cookiesaregreat
    11 years ago | pl

    its not your dick dude

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  • ChasingAfterPond<3
    11 years ago | pl

    Clitoral stimulation is the key to making a girl cum. So it is possible that she cannot just cum through penetration and needs clitoral stimulation as well. I doubt that your dick is the problem in this, but I do think you are being a dick because she can't help it if that is the way that her body is. She probably enjoys having sex with you and the penetration does feel good, but she needs a bit more stimulation to get her to have an orgasm. She also probably doesn't want to give up and she wants to come while you guys have sex because she doesn't want you to think that your not doing something right or that your dick is too small, etc, which how you are already reacting to it. So try to be creative while you two have sex so you and your girlfriend can cum.

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  • lc1988
    11 years ago | pl

    Sounds like a good compromise to me. I dk why you're gf gets angry at that. I've never had an orgasm during penetration but I'm totally cool. I already got off before or he'll get me after. Either way, you're both happy. He just doesn't know I don't get off during sex ha.

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