Is it normal to have trouble forming solid relationships in college

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I am in my second semester in college and things should be great. I am in a fraternity, I am involved, I got good grades, yet I still feel depressed. I think it stems from my relationships with people. I am living in a house next year with 4 of my brothers from the frat, and though we hang out a lot, I feel like they sometimes only hang with me to use me for my car. Also, sometimes they will go places with people who are also my friends and do not tell me. I have this feeling they like want to ditch me or something and talk about me or try to keep me out of loop behind my back. These same guys I have this suspicion of are planning a spring break trip and not going to invite me, even though they mentioned something like a month ago. These guys I thought were my best friends here. I think I like college, but I sometimes feel like no one here truly cares about me unlike when I am home. I had a lot of friends at home and used to have friends in all my classes, but here I just feel like a nobody. I am afraid I could mess up my colleges years by being so insecure with myself and my relationships

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  • mouseyy
    14 years ago

    I feel mostly the same way.
    I am a girl and I don't belong to a sorority because my campus doesn't have greek life and I don't have a car, but I feel like I've only really made one friend here at college. I also had a lot of friends at home and I really feel like a nobody here.

    It makes me feel pretty shitty and I keep hoping it will get better but it hasn't. I guess all that I can do is continue to reach out to other people until someone realizes that I'm a nice person and befriends me.

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  • schumacher
    14 years ago

    why the fuck would you want a relationship in college? just get some girl drunk and fuck her till she can't walk straight, then go to class, come home, wash rinse, repeat! Dont be an idiot, there's plenty of time for a relationship later on, now is the time for wild 25 person orgies in a back yard!!!

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    • Juniper
      12 years ago

      go get checked for STDs dude

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    • Jen118584
      14 years ago

      Did you even read the post? He's asking about friendships with his fraternity brothers, not relationships with chicks.

      Poster, I don't know what to tell ya, since I'm not a guy, but the best I can do is tell you to just be yourself and even if you feel insecure, don't act it. Guys prey upon other guys' insecurities and weaknesses. If you feel like there is one guy you can trust to approach and ask him what's up, do so. Otherwise, just keep inviting yourself along and be yourself. As fraternity brothers, they shouldn't be acting this way. I'm not sure how frats work but if it persists, just say fuck them and drop out of it, maybe?

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  • loveme
    12 years ago

    I feel the same way college has been awful for me this year for friendships and worst of all relationships..every guy just wamts me to hump and have sex..they tell me no commitment..shitty colleges

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    You are right, they hate you. Don't talk to them ever again. Don't worry about relationships. Friends are a luxury. Worry only about achieving your ambitions, and pretend that other people do not exist.

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  • TheConsciousElectron
    13 years ago

    Are there other fraternity brothers you can hang with?

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