Is it normal to have thoughts that go against your sexual orientation?

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As a closeted gay male I for the most part usually think about men while usually pretending to be attracted to women in public (although I am able to determine whether a woman is beautiful or not.).

But there have been a few, relatively rare, instances where I have been attracted to the opposite sex.

One time a friend of mine showed myself and a few close her clitoral hood piercing and after seeing it I became wildly attracted to her for a few days. It was insane because I don't find her to be all that attractive to begin with but on that night I couldn't stop thinking about having sex with her.

Also usually if I stare at lesbian porn I don't feel anything. Only very rarely does it get me off and even if it does it isn't as exciting as gay porn and more often than not I will have the urge to switch to gay porn.

So I'm a bit confused by this. I consider myself to be gay and have always wished that I was bisexual but I can never seem to get into women in any consistent way. It sort of just happens from time to time in isolated events that are separated by several months.

Has anyone gay, lesbian, straight, male, or female ever experienced anything like this?

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  • dom180
    11 years ago | pl

    Yes, normal. Sexuality is a scale and very few people are entirely one thing or t'other.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    11 years ago | pl

    You forgot to watch the middle ground of straight porn! It includes men and women, so you can get a better sense of your sexuality.

    Honestly, I don't think anyone is 100% gay or straight, at least not in the privacy of one's own thoughts.

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago | pl

    Sexuality is a spectrum! It's normal.

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  • IrishPotato
    11 years ago | pl

    It's completely normal, and honestly, I think the need for labeling your sexuality is silly.
    You're you, and nothing more.

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  • mystery48
    11 years ago | pl

    It happens to me to, Im a gay 18 yearl old guy and i love gay porn, i sometimes have feeling towards friends (girls) and the rare times ive watched stright porn, i get turned on imagining having sex with a woman

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago | pl

    Maybe you need a guy with a vagina.
    I'm kidding, sort of.

    Like a few people have already pointed out, you don't really need a perfectly fitting sexuality label to be normal. As long as it is lawful, go for what makes you happiest. Be gay and love men, but you are still human and have human instincts about everything sexual, including vaginas. You are normal.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago | pl

    I think that's normal, yeah. There are even some (although admittedly so few that I can't think of one) men I could see myself being in a proper relationship with.

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  • Darkoil
    11 years ago | pl

    If I had to shag every person on the planet in order I find them attractive there are probably a lot of men that I would quite happily bum before moving on to the ugly group of women, this doesn't make me bi or gay, it just makes me who I am. What I'm trying to say is sexual orientation is not black or white but tailored to each individual human being on the planet.

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