Is it normal to have this hate for males?

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Okay, so in general I hate boys. I get scared being near one, I'm really shy with complimenting them, flirting, and even takes it slow in dating. I can never really trust males. When I see em being nice I just think they're acting that way but might really be assholes, if I start talking to a boy, I question everything abt his behaviors morals, google him and stalk his FB. I never really trust males I always fear they may be just trying to play head games or molest me, or be perverts. When guys are gay though its different. Im fine with the feminine gays. I fear love cos I fear heartbreak. If I date a guy I actually love and care abt I legit stalk his facebook to make sure he stays faithful. I hate it when they call me words, like hot and sexy, it makes me really uncomfortable. I get scared when close to them sometimes, or when they put their arms around me, or show sexual interest, or do anything sexual, I dont like being stared at by them, it makes me uncomfortable, I also hate being checked out by them.

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  • FocoUS
    12 years ago

    It seems like you're very uncomfortable about men who are attracted to you.

    I had a friend. When she was dating this guy (nice guy) she always felt so nervous around him. When he put his arm around her (when they were just sitting down) she said she was so nervous she wanted to puke.

    The relationship didn't last of course. 1 year later she's realizes she's a lesbian.

    At a young age it's okay to get so nervous. But don't get too tough on men they have feelings too.

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    • FairyDustYo
      12 years ago

      Thing is, I think it would be nice to have a BF, but in the past I had some jerks as boyfriends, (cheaters, violent, and just down right disrespectful) and if I find a BF I want him to be nice. Not another druggie, or drinker. But the thing is I am very emotional, so when i have a boyfriend, if he does wrong, I get very sad, angry and people start accusing me of being insane.

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    Don't be too harsh to us, we're not all bad!

    Seriously, I think if you are going to get over this, or at least work out what problem you have, you're going to need to take some risks by letting your guard down a little. I'm not suggesting that you go with the first guy you see, but if you try and come at it from an open-minded point of view your problem will probably either be solved, or at least become clearer.

    If you do nothing, the issue will only worsen. You need to do *something* to change where you are at right now.

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    • FairyDustYo
      12 years ago

      I mean, I guess I just need to see like when I meet new people. But IDK I really have difficulty trusting If its someone I knew for a while, I really might not mind them, or still not trust them and see my reasoning but IDK. You gotta really know someone to know what and what not they're capable of.

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      • dom180
        12 years ago

        That is true for many people, but everything starts from somewhere. Maybe practice talking with guys that you know you can trust, and building up a friendship with them. If you can gradually be more open with guys, you will begin to trust them and see that they are not so different from you.

        Tbh, I used to feel similarly about girls (although not as badly as you feel), until I got some real female friends, and now I'm totally fine talking with girls, I might even find it easier than talking with guys. It all comes from not socialising with the opposite sex often enough, and all you see from them is the worst side of them. You only see the best side if you get a little closer.

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        • FairyDustYo
          12 years ago

          Thanks, yeah I guess I can try talking to some guys I know well enough to actually trust more, like Dominic and Felipe. I've known them for a while. I dont get to talk to Dominic as much though cos he moved sorta far away, but I still got his number.

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          • dom180
            12 years ago

            Go for it, good luck!

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  • Jbeiberhole69
    12 years ago

    then ur a lesbian miss

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  • Ipooprainbows
    11 years ago

    Maybe you have some unresolved issue to do with a certain situation/guy deep down that u may not even know about, perhaps this may be triggering your anger towards men..?

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  • Rocket_9
    12 years ago

    The reason that you feel that way is because, like most females, you've been indoctrinated by Oprah, Ellen and the like. Men made the world. Even God is a man, so stop the nonsense. Us men are great, even fantastic! However, women are SpEcTaCuLar!!!

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    • FairyDustYo
      12 years ago

      Im pretty sure they never indoctrined me, like I know why I am the way I am and they dun have a thing to do with it.

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  • Jbeiberhole69
    12 years ago

    first u got to ask urself would they even want to molest your stalker ass

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    • FairyDustYo
      12 years ago

      Im a stalker ass, cool. Im a lesbian, not really I just prefer girls over guys, I've loved girls beofore and guys so what. I just feel more comfortable with girls and I get paranoid and watchful of girls too, just especially guys. Secondly, you sound dumb as fuck people dont think "this girl is so fucking hot, I wannna take her and tie her up and force her to fuck me", molestation, rape and what not is lots of the times about control, having power over someone, and humiliating them, angering em, making em feel sad. Why do u think lots of the times some rapists never leave there victim alone? Cos they enjoy making em miserable not the sex itself they got, but maybe the psychological turmoil they caused when hurting em. Yes, sometimes people molest PARTLY because of some sexual urge, but not always so STFU bro, cos I know, cos I've done lots of research and seen a lot. Also, Im a stalker ass, I like girls, thats great, Im not hurting u or anyone else. A stalker ass? I meet people I try to figure out HOW they are as a person i dont even bother with personal info, a lesbian, okay thats great, I dont even perform in lesbian behavior, I just like girls and feel more comfortable with girls, so how can I be hurting anyone? Yes, I do understand that there are some people who aren't exactly straight that hurt people, but thats not me. (lots of straight people do to) I'm too turned off by sex to use it as a weapon and I can assure you all my attractions are perfectly healthy.

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  • BoredGuy
    12 years ago

    i re-read this and the comments, i think you are borderline retarded.

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    • FairyDustYo
      12 years ago

      okay, a bordelrine retard with a 120 IQ and all higher level classes. That I do good in and better in then many of my peers. K cool broski!

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      • BoredGuy
        12 years ago

        How you measured your IQ? I don't believe you. I went to mensa to measure mine, you should too.(btw 120 is not something special)

        Maybe you are not retarded but autistic? There is something wrong with you, go to the doctor.

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        • FairyDustYo
          12 years ago

          Well the average one is 100, I understand im not the smartest person in the world, there are things I would certainly like to improve but seriously dude going on the internet judging people you dont know, whom never did anything to u, just makes u look like the dumb one. And yeah, I got it tested by a professional. Go to the doctor? I know im not completely there, but I get by and my therapist taught me lots of techniques and im strong so in my worse times I get through.

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          • falilv1
            12 years ago

            seriously dude going on the internet judging people you dont know

            Do you even realise how much of a contradiction that is, you judge every man you've never met, and stalking your own boyfriend on facebook gives men more reason to be careful of you , also I've met some ice queens that are worse than any man.

            But forget that

            BECAUSE YOU ABSOLUTELY RIGHT AS A GUY MYSELF, (AND ALL GUYS ARE THE SAME) IF YOU WERE JUST A TAD BETTER LOOKING THEN FUGLY, I WOULD DEFINATELY FUCK WITH YOUR HEAD TO FUCK WITH YOUR PUSSY!

            REMEMBER IF YOU COME OF THIS CREEPY IN PERSON, NO ONE GONNA WANNA FUCK YOU ANYWAY.

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  • BoredGuy
    12 years ago

    coolio, just don't become a bitch.

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  • zchristian
    12 years ago

    I will never trust anyone 100% still close also as long as love dont make you blind you should be able to see if he tryes to use you also all are into something unless they are asexual so well all are pervs eighter you keep it secret or you dont know what your into yet...

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    • FairyDustYo
      12 years ago

      Its just IDK boys can be good at seeming nice (using flattery and what not) when they're really uncaring douches and I know, cos I liked a guy and he would seem really nice at times, but ends up running all the girls dry in pain, and is really uncaring and just malevolent. And I've known other guys in the past whom would do that, except he was even worse. Can't even stand the idea of me just living a normal life or somethinggg :/

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      • zchristian
        12 years ago

        Remember girls can do the same...

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  • Shadowgirl
    12 years ago

    Well, do you atleast have a physical attraction to males?

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    • FairyDustYo
      12 years ago

      Depends on what u mean, like I would kiss one, but I dont really think about sex with them, like I prefer girls over guys.

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      • Shadowgirl
        12 years ago

        If you are a lesbian or maybe bi sinc you have gone on a date with a male, I would say its completely normal to not want a guy in a physical way. Probably dont hate men though just dislike them since you can be around gay men.

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        • FairyDustYo
          12 years ago

          Its just it gets difficult at times, and I get judged for it, but really they dont understand. I think its good I pick up on signs that a man is no good, that lots of other people dont even care enough to take seriously.

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          • Shadowgirl
            12 years ago

            But you have to know not every single man out there is bad for you. It's bad to think that way all the time like your walking on egg shells around every new male you meet. Sometimes you just have to let down your guard.

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            • FairyDustYo
              12 years ago

              I mean IDK. Like lots of people in this world are messed up. I've been talking to someone I recently meant Eric R, but I mean IDK about him he seems nice, but you know what some guys do, they talk all nicely to girls but are really just douchbags, not to mention he brags abt how he cant remember anything from last night. Then there's Fahed, I recently just meant him and he started talking to me but IDK, at least he brags about how smart he is (even though IDK how honest he's being. But I guess I should try to get to know him. But still IDK, if I can trust 'emmm yet.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    12 years ago

    You are so fucking immature its unreal

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    • FairyDustYo
      12 years ago

      Oh why, because im cautious? Because Im not a complete whore? i think the way I am is good, do you know how many boys down here (where I live) are rapists? You'd be surprised. I know lots of fucked up people. Not to mention its good I shy away from boys at times, I am living in the county with the highest STD rate, of the entire state.

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    • falilv1
      12 years ago

      forget the people trying to contradict you, sex is the most 'mature' act so being turned off by it is about as immature as they come. nad liking sex definately doesn't make you a whore, it makes you human.

      this chick needs to forget her fear of people because she is gonna lose out with more than just sex (which for the record feels good for women too if you let it) she gonna lose out in life

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      • FairyDustYo
        12 years ago

        I dont get it though, like Im not losing out on life just cos I dont engage in sex, and im not really losing out on life, Im just trying to find the right people to associate with, most of the guys I know are douches (all the same) my friends arent very good friends, I cant always exactly keep friends, we drift apart, they were fake or just leave me, one of my friends lives pretty far so I only get to see her on the holidays, my social life where I used to live is gone, I guess I just dont fit in over here. Its just most of the guys I know, are just jerks, I dont even talk to most of them, sometimes, I wanna give someone more of a chance and put my time into them, but even if it does turn out good something comes up and it turns out wrong, IDK if these people even wanna hear from me, cos after a while I guess Im just sickening? IDK. Like I wanna find someone to always talk on the phone to and to text but then I dont wanna get to annoying to the point where they make me stop.

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    • seabird_71
      12 years ago

      I actually think she shows maturity. It's childish and ignorant to trust any and everyone. There are a lot of people who become nervous when around the opposite sex or just people they are attracted to or who are attracted to them. Of course it varies with different people but one being aware of the possibilities is probably the furthest from being immature.

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      • FairyDustYo
        12 years ago

        Thank you so much.

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    • pondford
      12 years ago

      I wouldn't call it immaturity. It's better safe then sorry. But then, what's the point in life if you don't take a few logical risks into the mysterious? Still, there are a load of really fucked up people out there and I wouldn't want their paws on me; men or women.

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