I find that most of these feelings are self inflicted. Every person who described such attitudes had a childhood where they felt parents didn't care for them...something like not being disciplined enough and acting out gave the response you were looking for. Maybe they were too strict and still, in a similar but different way, your acting out gave the right response.
However life throws a curve when you're faced with the reality of people who don't care how you act, you don't get what you want. Kind of like: Mom protected you from bullies which made them bully more. This usually turns to you being anxious about strangers. They read your feelings and now see you as strange because they've done nothing to you. You interpret that feeling they give you, which is a result of the signals that you sent to them, and relate that to your earlier life of being bullied. Knowing that you have no protector, whether it's because you recognize the transformation into maturity or because you don't, or because your "protector" is no longer....all of these feelings happen in split split seconds bombarding you with different feelings and instead of categorizing and sorting through the ones you need and don
need and don't at that moment, you simply react to them all at once. That's what we describe as having an anxiety attack. Having anxiety usually keeps you away from others and puts you in a position of loneliness and the next one, depression. Depression has the side affect of making you feel useless and unloved. Now it goes full circle, as the feelings of unloved loneliness makes you want to reach out to those that aren't there because you're too anxious to get close or talk to anyone. Blah blah blah...
Solution is...stop. Just...stop. Everyone feels a little nervous. Obsess about what makes you nervous, then you'll become anxious., etc etc full circle bs.
Simply, just stop. This is not an insult to you. Just my suggestion. Then you or another poster will say "it's not that easy" why are you looking for life to be easy? You know it's not easy for ANYONE. easier for some than others, but still not easy.
Then someone will say "Maybe he/she/I am not as strong mentally as you" Again, why? What reason is there to be mentally weak? Everyday you're supposed to learn how to adapt and survive If you're still being anxious about the same situation over and over then you didn't address and find a solution. You simply rely on others to do the work for you. Read and access the situation. Teach yourself to deal with the outcome. Make sure that the bad outcome has slim to no chance by making a good outcome. or rely on therapy and pills to magically feel better which obviously does nothing or else you wouldn't have to take it daily for the rest of your financial life
Is it normal to have sporadic mood changes, anxiety etc.
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I find that most of these feelings are self inflicted. Every person who described such attitudes had a childhood where they felt parents didn't care for them...something like not being disciplined enough and acting out gave the response you were looking for. Maybe they were too strict and still, in a similar but different way, your acting out gave the right response.
However life throws a curve when you're faced with the reality of people who don't care how you act, you don't get what you want. Kind of like: Mom protected you from bullies which made them bully more. This usually turns to you being anxious about strangers. They read your feelings and now see you as strange because they've done nothing to you. You interpret that feeling they give you, which is a result of the signals that you sent to them, and relate that to your earlier life of being bullied. Knowing that you have no protector, whether it's because you recognize the transformation into maturity or because you don't, or because your "protector" is no longer....all of these feelings happen in split split seconds bombarding you with different feelings and instead of categorizing and sorting through the ones you need and don
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need and don't at that moment, you simply react to them all at once. That's what we describe as having an anxiety attack. Having anxiety usually keeps you away from others and puts you in a position of loneliness and the next one, depression. Depression has the side affect of making you feel useless and unloved. Now it goes full circle, as the feelings of unloved loneliness makes you want to reach out to those that aren't there because you're too anxious to get close or talk to anyone. Blah blah blah...
Solution is...stop. Just...stop. Everyone feels a little nervous. Obsess about what makes you nervous, then you'll become anxious., etc etc full circle bs.
Simply, just stop. This is not an insult to you. Just my suggestion. Then you or another poster will say "it's not that easy" why are you looking for life to be easy? You know it's not easy for ANYONE. easier for some than others, but still not easy.
Then someone will say "Maybe he/she/I am not as strong mentally as you" Again, why? What reason is there to be mentally weak? Everyday you're supposed to learn how to adapt and survive If you're still being anxious about the same situation over and over then you didn't address and find a solution. You simply rely on others to do the work for you. Read and access the situation. Teach yourself to deal with the outcome. Make sure that the bad outcome has slim to no chance by making a good outcome. or rely on therapy and pills to magically feel better which obviously does nothing or else you wouldn't have to take it daily for the rest of your financial life