Obviously your mother is not a disciplinarian. At least, not anymore of she once was. Standards and consequences are not enforced. Raising children is very hard. It's tedious, and painful at times, and your mother already raised one child. One thing I've noticed, as parents get older( ESP. If they have adult children) is that tend to take a 'grandparent' approach to children. No consequences, forgive everything. It's easier. Child rearing is tiring, & they don't have the energy they used to. Your mom may also let her get away with things out of guilt for her situation, the fact that she had no parents. No matter the situation, children need boundaries, consequences, routines, & consistency. Children are very adept & quick to learn how to get what they want. I crying gets them what they want, that's what they will do. The parents must show them what it takes for them to get what they want. Your mom probably won't change from what she is now. But there is something that can be done. Child psychologists & counselors are very good at helping parents & kids live in harmony. It doesn't happen overnight, but you will notice a difference in a couple of months. If you can convince her to take your Sis to a counselor, I can almost guarantee life will be better for everyone. Good luck
IIN to have so much anger towards my sister?
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Obviously your mother is not a disciplinarian. At least, not anymore of she once was. Standards and consequences are not enforced. Raising children is very hard. It's tedious, and painful at times, and your mother already raised one child. One thing I've noticed, as parents get older( ESP. If they have adult children) is that tend to take a 'grandparent' approach to children. No consequences, forgive everything. It's easier. Child rearing is tiring, & they don't have the energy they used to. Your mom may also let her get away with things out of guilt for her situation, the fact that she had no parents. No matter the situation, children need boundaries, consequences, routines, & consistency. Children are very adept & quick to learn how to get what they want. I crying gets them what they want, that's what they will do. The parents must show them what it takes for them to get what they want. Your mom probably won't change from what she is now. But there is something that can be done. Child psychologists & counselors are very good at helping parents & kids live in harmony. It doesn't happen overnight, but you will notice a difference in a couple of months. If you can convince her to take your Sis to a counselor, I can almost guarantee life will be better for everyone. Good luck