Is it normal to have so many friends and feel so lonely?

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I think I have a problem. I'm in my early 20s and I have many friends that would do anything for me and I would gladly do anything for them, but I still feel lonely when nobody is around. I fight existential angst constantly. The main problem is that I've never had someone to feel vulnerable around, or make my life feel like it has a point, or know everything about me - a girlfriend, a soulmate - someone to die for. I've dated three or four girls for at least a month in the past few years, but none of them have really panned out, probably for the best. I then feel depressed for four months afterwards. I hate it when people complain about their easy lives, while I battle loneliness, and the arrogance and stupidity of others constantly - while working two full time jobs on little or no sleep. I usually stay up until early in the morning thinking about it and then I wind up getting a maximum of five hours sleep every night. I'm not Johnny Depp, but I'm not ugly. I have a university degree in theoretical algebra, and a decent job in suburban America. I work so damn hard while so many people laze about and bask in the wealth of their parents. What the hell is my problem? I feel like just giving up and living in a forest somewhere.

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  • Fredo3
    14 years ago

    Yeah listen to doctor faggot over here lol

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  • gako
    13 years ago

    I actually didn't read everything that you wrote. Because of the length. But get more friends.

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  • bobs5
    14 years ago

    I suspect that you are a bit shy and are not really comfortable approaching women. And when you do find conversation difficult. Humor worked best for me. Be easy to like and not too intense (cuz ur analytical). Be a listener as you don't have to say much. Hope sone of this helps.

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  • Frances
    10 years ago

    Also, never give up. You were put here for a reason so go find it

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  • Frances
    10 years ago

    Ignore those comments. I have the same problem although I'm a girl. You just got to keep going , keep your head up. I have many friends, you like feel like no ones there for you when you know people are? I understand. Just to be clear therapy won't work. You got to sort your shit out by yourself. It's not hard just keep working hard. Those kids that get given everything won't get anywhere trust me, there are some in my family and right now one is sitting pretending to be making money, the other is failings university and the other doesn't know where her life is going. You will find someone who will give you a reason to live and when you find them hold in cause I didn't and it's the biggest mistake I've ever made. Hope it works out for you bud x

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  • Corleone
    12 years ago

    I know that feeling. Try to find someone who can get close to you. Also, I think your lifestyle is killing you. You should try to get by with one full-time job, and invest your spare time in a social life. Hope this helps :)

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