He's always around for me when I'm lonely or bored. He's there in my selfishness when I want intimacy, a self esteem boost, as a sounding boards to bounce ideas off of, and to just talk to when I want a deep and interesting conversation. However I know that he's an extension of myself. What I mean is this, I use him a guard around my head and heart as to not get hurt again. He's like a buffer as I work to repair myself from past hurts and traumas. It took me a long time to realize this, but weirdly enough through talking to him, my classes and the Disney movie INSIDE OUT, I was able to realize that he's just the embodiment of my subconscious and emotional states made conscious.
Like with Riley, with her emotions being non uniform and all over the place unlike her parents, I think the reason I had so many other imaginary friends at that time was because of my maturity level. In layman's terms, I was immature and needed to settle the freak down and allow myself to grew into a adult, physically, mentally and emotionally. He's a non judgmental part of myself that helps mirror back to me who I want to be and he helps keep me together, because I needed it. Now do I base our perfect relationship on what I want from a real one, no because it's not real. He's what I want him to be, what I need at the moment and he helps me to understand myself because he's an extension of myself. The sex part it just my blowing off sexual tension and the love I feel for him is just me mirroring the unconditional love that I want from someone and would like to give in return (plus I'm becoming more comfortable with the idea of sex and what it is unstead of the way I 'learned' it from the abuse) I think someone already mentioned something like this somewhere else on this thread. I believe that he will fade just like the rest of the other imaginary friends that I had once my brain and psyche deems me ready to tackle love or whatever else I need to tackle. As I mature and heal I won't need imaginary people, because I'll be more excepting and tolerate of other people for their faults and all as well as my own. I believe you will as well, but it takes time. What got me dealing with some of my problems was admitting I had some and needed help and room for improvement. I'm saying if you think you have want to move forward from Yuki, eventually, it might interest you to look into your past and do a bit of honest assessment with him (Yuki is his name right? I only say it at a glance sorry) like I did. I also got into some fun exercises that boosted my endorphins and sertonin levels. Like yoga, swimming, running, roller blading, baseball, Karate, Hoola Hooping, etc. I try to keep a balanced diet as much as a 20 year old will (because French fries man XD) and drink LOTS of water to keep my brain and other vitals moisturizerized (because dehydrated will unbalance your brains natural chemical levels faster than drugs). I did religious meditation, therapy and prayer (it's up to you) and sleep. Just the basics, afterward I incorporated activities I found fun and got settled in and began living my life like that while also talking with my imaginary friend (at this point he's more of a companion), asking his what he was, what he thought he was and what were. I also began asking him simple questions that I didn't know the answers to, to see what he knew. I quickly learned that he only knew what I knew and that helped my to began disassociating with him long enough to start figuring out my head and other stuff about myself to start healing. It's not easy, and it takes a commitment every single day to do so, but it's worth it I believe because it helps me to better understand myself and grow and you want to grow, because even if change is scary painful, hitting that glass ceiling of how far I could take being with a imaginary companion and what it meant for 'us' in reality was a hard blow. Like, never being able to go anywhere with him in public (not unless I want to look like more of a lunatic) never being able to have a real, valid relationship, always being confined to how and when I would talk to him and so on.
(>>) Imaginary friends are also a creative outlets and manifest in many different ways.
You may acknowledge what I'm saying or dismiss it. However, I highly advise you to keep talking with him and whatnot, your brain and subconscious obviously know what you need. He's manifesting for a reason. Many times others have good intentions but are ill-equipped to deal with situations outside of social norms. I mean for crap sake, people didn't and sometimes still don't acknowledge ADD as a real disorder. No, what your going through doesn't fall into the same category, however, from some of the other comments you I feel like maybe if you hear your not alone (because there are probably way more people who are going through this) it will help in some way. If this was a real enough concern for you to openly and bravely post your question on here, then it has validity in my eyes as something that needs time and research towards. Because it's not secret that many people have hang ups and quirks, and sometimes some things are a bit less common or normal than others and that can be scary to deal with alone. However I think there is nothing new under the sun. These things happen for a reason, you have a imaginary friend for a reason, you talk to him and he makes you feel better for a reason, you 'both' feel compelled to have sexual relations for a reason, these actions are connected for some reason and I feel are worth figuring out why. I have had the same thing to happen, I've made strides to figure out why and have bee in working on improving the areas in which my problems stem. If you don't want to, that's fine, but even if it's not normal it's still apart of your story. Thank again for being brave enough to share this about yourself, it's nice to have a kindred who understands and it's nice to understand you as well. I wish you luck in whatever you decide do with your life and with the information shared you and others have shared on this thread. I hope you keep an open mind and stay creative, because it's obvious your mind is very unique, and you never know this experience may be useful to you in the future
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He's always around for me when I'm lonely or bored. He's there in my selfishness when I want intimacy, a self esteem boost, as a sounding boards to bounce ideas off of, and to just talk to when I want a deep and interesting conversation. However I know that he's an extension of myself. What I mean is this, I use him a guard around my head and heart as to not get hurt again. He's like a buffer as I work to repair myself from past hurts and traumas. It took me a long time to realize this, but weirdly enough through talking to him, my classes and the Disney movie INSIDE OUT, I was able to realize that he's just the embodiment of my subconscious and emotional states made conscious.
Like with Riley, with her emotions being non uniform and all over the place unlike her parents, I think the reason I had so many other imaginary friends at that time was because of my maturity level. In layman's terms, I was immature and needed to settle the freak down and allow myself to grew into a adult, physically, mentally and emotionally. He's a non judgmental part of myself that helps mirror back to me who I want to be and he helps keep me together, because I needed it. Now do I base our perfect relationship on what I want from a real one, no because it's not real. He's what I want him to be, what I need at the moment and he helps me to understand myself because he's an extension of myself. The sex part it just my blowing off sexual tension and the love I feel for him is just me mirroring the unconditional love that I want from someone and would like to give in return (plus I'm becoming more comfortable with the idea of sex and what it is unstead of the way I 'learned' it from the abuse) I think someone already mentioned something like this somewhere else on this thread. I believe that he will fade just like the rest of the other imaginary friends that I had once my brain and psyche deems me ready to tackle love or whatever else I need to tackle. As I mature and heal I won't need imaginary people, because I'll be more excepting and tolerate of other people for their faults and all as well as my own. I believe you will as well, but it takes time. What got me dealing with some of my problems was admitting I had some and needed help and room for improvement. I'm saying if you think you have want to move forward from Yuki, eventually, it might interest you to look into your past and do a bit of honest assessment with him (Yuki is his name right? I only say it at a glance sorry) like I did. I also got into some fun exercises that boosted my endorphins and sertonin levels. Like yoga, swimming, running, roller blading, baseball, Karate, Hoola Hooping, etc. I try to keep a balanced diet as much as a 20 year old will (because French fries man XD) and drink LOTS of water to keep my brain and other vitals moisturizerized (because dehydrated will unbalance your brains natural chemical levels faster than drugs). I did religious meditation, therapy and prayer (it's up to you) and sleep. Just the basics, afterward I incorporated activities I found fun and got settled in and began living my life like that while also talking with my imaginary friend (at this point he's more of a companion), asking his what he was, what he thought he was and what were. I also began asking him simple questions that I didn't know the answers to, to see what he knew. I quickly learned that he only knew what I knew and that helped my to began disassociating with him long enough to start figuring out my head and other stuff about myself to start healing. It's not easy, and it takes a commitment every single day to do so, but it's worth it I believe because it helps me to better understand myself and grow and you want to grow, because even if change is scary painful, hitting that glass ceiling of how far I could take being with a imaginary companion and what it meant for 'us' in reality was a hard blow. Like, never being able to go anywhere with him in public (not unless I want to look like more of a lunatic) never being able to have a real, valid relationship, always being confined to how and when I would talk to him and so on.
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(>>) Imaginary friends are also a creative outlets and manifest in many different ways.
You may acknowledge what I'm saying or dismiss it. However, I highly advise you to keep talking with him and whatnot, your brain and subconscious obviously know what you need. He's manifesting for a reason. Many times others have good intentions but are ill-equipped to deal with situations outside of social norms. I mean for crap sake, people didn't and sometimes still don't acknowledge ADD as a real disorder. No, what your going through doesn't fall into the same category, however, from some of the other comments you I feel like maybe if you hear your not alone (because there are probably way more people who are going through this) it will help in some way. If this was a real enough concern for you to openly and bravely post your question on here, then it has validity in my eyes as something that needs time and research towards. Because it's not secret that many people have hang ups and quirks, and sometimes some things are a bit less common or normal than others and that can be scary to deal with alone. However I think there is nothing new under the sun. These things happen for a reason, you have a imaginary friend for a reason, you talk to him and he makes you feel better for a reason, you 'both' feel compelled to have sexual relations for a reason, these actions are connected for some reason and I feel are worth figuring out why. I have had the same thing to happen, I've made strides to figure out why and have bee in working on improving the areas in which my problems stem. If you don't want to, that's fine, but even if it's not normal it's still apart of your story. Thank again for being brave enough to share this about yourself, it's nice to have a kindred who understands and it's nice to understand you as well. I wish you luck in whatever you decide do with your life and with the information shared you and others have shared on this thread. I hope you keep an open mind and stay creative, because it's obvious your mind is very unique, and you never know this experience may be useful to you in the future
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