In my most professional opinion, I think it depends on the perspective you're looking from when you ask, "Is this normal?" I would safely say for most men, this is not normal behavior. But if your boss has been suppressing sexual desires for men for some time, in a sense, it's normal for him to cross some of the lines of his professionalism. Even today, many men surpress there same-sex desires and "play it straight". I should mention that sexuality is not so black and white. He could be madly in love with his wife, and just curious. He could be bisexual. He could be gay and actually not his wife sexually, but just emotional. He could be initializing an affair with you. There's so many ways to look at the scenario from his perspective. That doesn't mean it's "right" from a bosses standpoint. But you did said you were close friends. So I could understand why those lines might have been crossed if he finds you sexually attractive.
It's just my opinion as an educator. I've heard many many more awkward scenarios from all kinds of people. But what I am curious about is *why* you're asking if this is "normal"? Are you considering his offer? Are you not sure what to do because he is a friend of yours? Are you concerned about his wife and family? I was hoping you could elaborate a bit more on this situation.
If you are not considering his offer, I would just be honest and gentle about it. You can't be too sure what's going through his head right now. If he's always had same-sex desires, if he only feels them for you. If this was just sort of a heat-of-the-moment type thing. (Which does happen.)
Is it normal to have relations with your boss?
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I'm a human sexuality educator.
In my most professional opinion, I think it depends on the perspective you're looking from when you ask, "Is this normal?" I would safely say for most men, this is not normal behavior. But if your boss has been suppressing sexual desires for men for some time, in a sense, it's normal for him to cross some of the lines of his professionalism. Even today, many men surpress there same-sex desires and "play it straight". I should mention that sexuality is not so black and white. He could be madly in love with his wife, and just curious. He could be bisexual. He could be gay and actually not his wife sexually, but just emotional. He could be initializing an affair with you. There's so many ways to look at the scenario from his perspective. That doesn't mean it's "right" from a bosses standpoint. But you did said you were close friends. So I could understand why those lines might have been crossed if he finds you sexually attractive.
It's just my opinion as an educator. I've heard many many more awkward scenarios from all kinds of people. But what I am curious about is *why* you're asking if this is "normal"? Are you considering his offer? Are you not sure what to do because he is a friend of yours? Are you concerned about his wife and family? I was hoping you could elaborate a bit more on this situation.
If you are not considering his offer, I would just be honest and gentle about it. You can't be too sure what's going through his head right now. If he's always had same-sex desires, if he only feels them for you. If this was just sort of a heat-of-the-moment type thing. (Which does happen.)