If she's interested, you should try it. You only live once. Try bringing the topic up with her again and see how she responds. She might be hoping that you do.
There's a difference between falling in love and enjoying sex. Many women only desire having partnerships and romantic relationships with men, but they find they can enjoy having sex with both men and women. Your sexual orientation is your sexual orientation. Having sex with her won't "turn" you into a lesbian. If you're gay, you're gay.
Ask yourself if you could really see yourself getting married to her, settling down, having children together, and being with her exclusively, both romantically and sexually. If yes, you're probably in love with her. If you really couldn't see that ever happening, congratulations, you may just be that lucky person who can enjoy sex with both men and women.
You might have a fling with her, enjoy it, and then never really desire having sex with women ever again. On the other hand, you might find have a deep desire to have sex with women from time to time, even though you're basically straight.
There's even a possibility that this could be a very hot fantasy in your head, but you'll find out you really don't like going down on women. Or maybe you'll wonder why you didn't start earlier.
True story: I'm a straight man who loves women and enjoy sex with them, but from time to time fantasizes about sucking dick. I had a kinky girlfriend who was completely down with this. So we went on a website and advertised for a fit guy with a nice cock who was up for a blowjob from a guy/girl cocksucking tag-team, no strings attached.
On,y about a million guys responded. (All of them described themselves as either straight or bisexual.) We ended up picking out the one who's as polite, could write in complete sentences, and had a nice cock.
He came over the next night. I was kind of nervous, but we all had some drinks and talked for awhile. Then my girlfriend jumpstarted things by asking him to take off his clothes. He was fairly well hung, and once I saw his cock, I got pretty fucking hot. So while my girlfriend watched, I took his cock into my mouth and started sucking it. I was like, "Holy shit, I'm sucking dick!"
He loved it. Me, not so much. After about a minute it seemed like a real chore. (I get it, ladies. Now I understand.) So I asked my girlfriend if she wanted a taste. She happened to be a fantastic cocksucker. She made him groan. I had trouble getting more than a few inches down.
So I kept bobbing my head up and down his cock for another minute. ("No teeth," I remember thinking.) I came up for air and I looked at my girlfriend, who was taking pictures. (No, they're not on the internet, fuckers, so don't ask.)
"Hey, baby, wanna finish him off?" I asked her. She sure did. (She loved his cock, which is good, because I had only managed to blow him for a couple minutes. She kept at it for at least another quarter hour.)
I had fantasized about him shooting come down my throat, but after sucking his dick for a few minutes, I realized I really didn't want that to happen. My girlfriend loved it though, and swallowed every last drop. (I actually enjoyed watching her suck him off. And I liked seeing her swallow his jizz much more than I liked blowing him.)
I realized that somehow I had found the idea, but not the practice, of sucking dick to be hot. So that was that.
The point is there are no easy answers here. Human sexuality is is a mysterious thing. It would be nice if you could get a brain scan and it would tell you exactly who you are. That doesn't exist.
So be brave. Be bold. Be curious. Whatever you do, don't judge yourself for having these feelings and desires. They are not only normal, they're quite healthy. And you'll probably regret not having asked her.
IIN to have lesbian sex with my best friend?
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If she's interested, you should try it. You only live once. Try bringing the topic up with her again and see how she responds. She might be hoping that you do.
There's a difference between falling in love and enjoying sex. Many women only desire having partnerships and romantic relationships with men, but they find they can enjoy having sex with both men and women. Your sexual orientation is your sexual orientation. Having sex with her won't "turn" you into a lesbian. If you're gay, you're gay.
Ask yourself if you could really see yourself getting married to her, settling down, having children together, and being with her exclusively, both romantically and sexually. If yes, you're probably in love with her. If you really couldn't see that ever happening, congratulations, you may just be that lucky person who can enjoy sex with both men and women.
You might have a fling with her, enjoy it, and then never really desire having sex with women ever again. On the other hand, you might find have a deep desire to have sex with women from time to time, even though you're basically straight.
There's even a possibility that this could be a very hot fantasy in your head, but you'll find out you really don't like going down on women. Or maybe you'll wonder why you didn't start earlier.
True story: I'm a straight man who loves women and enjoy sex with them, but from time to time fantasizes about sucking dick. I had a kinky girlfriend who was completely down with this. So we went on a website and advertised for a fit guy with a nice cock who was up for a blowjob from a guy/girl cocksucking tag-team, no strings attached.
On,y about a million guys responded. (All of them described themselves as either straight or bisexual.) We ended up picking out the one who's as polite, could write in complete sentences, and had a nice cock.
He came over the next night. I was kind of nervous, but we all had some drinks and talked for awhile. Then my girlfriend jumpstarted things by asking him to take off his clothes. He was fairly well hung, and once I saw his cock, I got pretty fucking hot. So while my girlfriend watched, I took his cock into my mouth and started sucking it. I was like, "Holy shit, I'm sucking dick!"
He loved it. Me, not so much. After about a minute it seemed like a real chore. (I get it, ladies. Now I understand.) So I asked my girlfriend if she wanted a taste. She happened to be a fantastic cocksucker. She made him groan. I had trouble getting more than a few inches down.
So I kept bobbing my head up and down his cock for another minute. ("No teeth," I remember thinking.) I came up for air and I looked at my girlfriend, who was taking pictures. (No, they're not on the internet, fuckers, so don't ask.)
"Hey, baby, wanna finish him off?" I asked her. She sure did. (She loved his cock, which is good, because I had only managed to blow him for a couple minutes. She kept at it for at least another quarter hour.)
I had fantasized about him shooting come down my throat, but after sucking his dick for a few minutes, I realized I really didn't want that to happen. My girlfriend loved it though, and swallowed every last drop. (I actually enjoyed watching her suck him off. And I liked seeing her swallow his jizz much more than I liked blowing him.)
I realized that somehow I had found the idea, but not the practice, of sucking dick to be hot. So that was that.
The point is there are no easy answers here. Human sexuality is is a mysterious thing. It would be nice if you could get a brain scan and it would tell you exactly who you are. That doesn't exist.
So be brave. Be bold. Be curious. Whatever you do, don't judge yourself for having these feelings and desires. They are not only normal, they're quite healthy. And you'll probably regret not having asked her.