I know what you mean about the double standard, Bud, but I'm not so sure it really applies so much anymore. In my opinion, it's just as awkward for a 19-year-old girl to date a 14-year-old boy (Let's say this kid is 14.) Okay, not AS awkward, but it's definitely a little strange.
I don't think it's sick, and I don't think she's weird or that it's wrong for her to have a crush on him, I simply think that she would better benefit from saving her feelings for someone closer to her age. I mean 14 or 15 y.o. boys...no matter how mature they are, they aren't ready for the kind of relationship a 19 y.o. would expect. And they shouldn't be, they're kids.
To me, this sounds like a matter of lonliness. It sounds like she's projecting it onto this kid. Maybe the fact that he doesn't give her the time of day intensifies it. In reality, he probably doesn't pay her much attention because she is an adult, and he is a kid. She's got this romantic image of what it would be like to have this sort of taboo relationship with this boy next door, and in reality, it's almost guaranteed it would be anything but romantic. I mean come on, she's 19 and she's been obsessing over this kid for three months. She should be out pursuing guys closer to her own age rather than lamenting the fact that a child wont acknowledge her advances.
Don't mean to be harsh, poster. I'm just giving you my honest opinion. I can see where you're coming from, though. I had a crush on my cousin's friend at one point when he was 15 and I was about 20. He was quirky, he played the guitar, he had long hair, he was a little flirt.....you know how it goes. But I knew it wasn't appropriate and I got over it really quick.
Is it normal to have feelings for someone younger than me?
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I know what you mean about the double standard, Bud, but I'm not so sure it really applies so much anymore. In my opinion, it's just as awkward for a 19-year-old girl to date a 14-year-old boy (Let's say this kid is 14.) Okay, not AS awkward, but it's definitely a little strange.
I don't think it's sick, and I don't think she's weird or that it's wrong for her to have a crush on him, I simply think that she would better benefit from saving her feelings for someone closer to her age. I mean 14 or 15 y.o. boys...no matter how mature they are, they aren't ready for the kind of relationship a 19 y.o. would expect. And they shouldn't be, they're kids.
To me, this sounds like a matter of lonliness. It sounds like she's projecting it onto this kid. Maybe the fact that he doesn't give her the time of day intensifies it. In reality, he probably doesn't pay her much attention because she is an adult, and he is a kid. She's got this romantic image of what it would be like to have this sort of taboo relationship with this boy next door, and in reality, it's almost guaranteed it would be anything but romantic. I mean come on, she's 19 and she's been obsessing over this kid for three months. She should be out pursuing guys closer to her own age rather than lamenting the fact that a child wont acknowledge her advances.
Don't mean to be harsh, poster. I'm just giving you my honest opinion. I can see where you're coming from, though. I had a crush on my cousin's friend at one point when he was 15 and I was about 20. He was quirky, he played the guitar, he had long hair, he was a little flirt.....you know how it goes. But I knew it wasn't appropriate and I got over it really quick.