Is it normal to have feelings for someone i just meet....

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Me and my guy have pretty much been together since I was 16, I'm now 24! When we first meet, I chased and chased and chased him for years. At first it was more of a hooking up thing but eventually gradulated into a real relationship. We've been living together for the past 4-5 years. He is a sweetheart and I know he would never cheat but I meet this guy that I can't get out of my head!! No matter what I do I think about him all the time. We text message from time to time and have hung out a few times as well but I don't know what to do. It feels good to go out and experence new things and just be free for once. I know thos other guy isn't much of a gem but I don't know to do to. I would never cheat on my bf ever. But maybe I just wanna be single for a while... Is it normal or not normal to feel like this after being with my bf for sooooo long??!?!?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    You shouldn't even be hanging out with other guys while in a relationship. But yes, if the guy you are with now is your only bf or even the only one you have slept with it's natural to wonder what it would be like to be with other guys. The drawback of losing your virginity to someone you date a long time.

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  • lelouch82
    3 years ago | pl

    It's not normal for a woman to obsess and chase after a man actually, let him come to you instead if you want a relationship with a man..

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  • lrasu333
    11 years ago | pl

    People change and relationships don't last. You aren't the same person you were as a 16-year-old girl. If you really want to see other people, you should be honest and direct with your boyfriend. You are still young and there is a whole world of men to explore (just be responsible about it).

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  • patrickbatemenlover
    12 years ago | pl

    So normal. When you find you have chemistry with someone its hard to overcome, regardless of being with someone else for a long period of time. Its exciting and refreshing in a way, even just to fantasise about. I was with my boyfriend for 4 years, we have now broken up... but I fell very badly for a guy I worked with. Thought about him all the time... but didnt do anything about it. Then later I met another guy and I felt the same again! Didn't do anything though once again. Then I met someone different AGAIN. Then I realised, I wasn't really "falling" for these guys so to speak, I just wanted to be single. I didn't want to stick with just my boyfriend. Now we a broken up on good terms and I am more then happy to be single after 4 years. It feels good. If its just one guy you think you have fallen for, dont act. He may slip from your mind in a few months as what happened to me. You just need to think really hard, would you be prepared to leave your boyfriend JUST to be single? Being single might be nice for a while, but you may regret it in the future.

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  • eggdee
    12 years ago | pl

    same thing happened to me.. you'll regret it once you lost your bf.. i did..

    try some new experiences with your boyfriend.. don't waste your relationship.. its hard to find true and long lasting love and with a good person

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  • ~L~
    13 years ago | pl

    Comers never hurt anyone you know.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago | pl

    If you are doing things, saying things, etc to this other guy that you wouldn't do in front of your boyfriend ...it's wrong. You should break up with him and allow him to find some one that actually deserves a great boyfriend. You obviously don't v

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    For so long? Some people celebrate 60 years of marriage lol. Just think about it, who will you be happier with? Will this new guy treat you better than your current bf? Will he support you and always be there for you? Is he just gonna be a non serious boyfriend? You should reflect b4 you decide something.

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  • barfo
    13 years ago | pl

    Why not, you have to start having them sometime, why not now?

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    • pat-tyler
      13 years ago | pl

      hell yea when i dated my ex a few years ago (break up due to distance issues me in mass her in rhode island) it lasted for a year and i saw some girls i would want to b with and i DONT cheat im loyal but still well im with my new gf E**a now so

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