Is it normal to have anxiety over being gay?

I'm 30 and I have anxiety over being gay. In social settings I have a fear of being laughed at or ridiculed because I am different and I have these weird expressions that come over my face when I'm talking to women. Is this normal? I have orientation for my new job this week and I'm already feeling nervous about working there all because I am gay.

Is It Normal?
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  • Don’t worry about it! I don’t hide the fact that as a bisexual, I enjoy sex with both women AND men! Be who you are and don’t worry about what others think. I heard an old saying years ago, “You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you, if you only knew how seldom they do!” Enjoy life, be who you are!

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  • Ya faggurt gae boi

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  • Most people your age and younger likely have no concerns or would negatively think anything about it. Of course there are always a few... Don't let the attitudes of a few bother you. Everyone offends a few.

    As a person's age gets older they are more likely to not be comfortable with it. I'm in my early 60's and among my generation there are still a sizable amount of people who are bothered by anything but a mono-heterosexual relationship; although most are polite enough about it to not let it interfere with most social relationships.

    Having the anxiety is normal. I suggest that you join a group with people of "mixed" non-monohetro people - and you will soon learn that the vast majority of people in the world that you will interact with won't care.

    I note that there are a larger number of people of all ages who are bothered more by people who insist of shoving there sexuality in other people's face (same for color, ethnicity, race). OK, you are gay (or whatever). In general I don't need to know that and what you do with your friends is not my concern; and if I do you don't need to tell me over and over many times and insist that I treat you "right" because you are "whatever". I, and many other people, are not going to treat you as well as other because you are being a jerk by constantly making an issue of your sexuality (color, ethnicity, race, etc). Personally, I treat people based on their attitudes and willingness to apply themselves to take care of themselves and others.

    I wish you well

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    • I'm not making an issue asshole. I said I have anxiety over being gay. Nowhere in my post did I make an issue of it.

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  • I think lots of people have those types of fears. Maybe not about their sexuality exactly but no one wants to be ridiculed. Fortunately for you the whole world is imploding and most people are scared shitless. They're probably all in their heads to much right now to even care about your sexuality. Silver lining to the appocolyse I guess.

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  • Honestly bro, the year is 2020, being gay is fucking trendy.

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    • its very easy to pass off being gay as the new cool as a straight person but if you actually were gay and knew how it was like you'd know it isn't true. also the idea of gay being a "trend" is harmful because it implies we weren't already around. i could talk about this more but i have a feeling you wouldn't take me seriously, id love to tho

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      • I have someone that I have known all my life (I'm in my 30's) who is gay. I have watched him from birth. 2020 People really don't care if you are gay, not like they did way back in the stone age.

        OP says "anxiety", anxiety in most cases is worry over something that will not happen. OP worries about being laughed at, everyone worries about this not just gay people, his anxiety is redundant, yet its something experienced by everyone.

        Oh yes, I believe being gay is a fad and is trendy. I'm not saying that in a bad way or an insulting way. I also believe you do not need to hide being gay, I think gay people have the same opportunities as everyone else.

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  • Dont worry youre not gay you just havent met the right woman yet. Jk do people still say that?

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