Is it normal to have an ex who harrasses you by calling cps on you?

I have two kids with my ex-husband. We have been seperated for almost three years now, and court has been finalized and we have joint custody of ours kids. Since may of '08 he has called child protective services over ten times on me all of which have been proven false or unfounded. We finalized our divorce dec of '08. I understand using the tactic of calling CPS to try and get the upperhand in our divorce, even though I think it is wrong. CPS is overworked and understaffed and doesn't need him and his vindictive girlfriend or family calling making false reports. The reports have been about my four year old cutting her hair, a skin rash that was being treated with diaper rash cream - that he was informed about, but felt the need to call CPS about before he took her to the ER where he had a nurse do a sexual assualt exam on her only to find out it was dermititus, treat with diaper rash cream- he's called saying I'm an alcoholic and drug user although I've never been those things.

Now they are threatening to call again because i let our three year old son pick out his own clothing and he like long sleeves shirts in summer. I offer him short sleeve shirts if we go some place and make sure he has lots of water. Instead if asking if I have plenty of summer clothes or asking why he has these clothes on, they give this message to my boyfriend who drops them off because I am already at work. It is neither abuse nor neglect him wearing these clothes. I admit summer is hot, but I keep my house at 68*, so my house is cool enough for him to wear those shirts when he picks them out.

Is it normal to have an ex so vindictive and spiteful that he continually harrasses you with CPS?

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  • some men are just spiteful and will do whatever it takes to get back at an ex including using the children as weapons

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  • You need to consult a lawyer. In the state I reside in they made it a criminal offense to make false reports to CPS. This is also harassment. If you can't afford a lawyer, contact legal aide.

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  • Nopenotnormal is exactly right. If he (they) are making frivolous claims that have been unfounded time after time, the state can take legal action. Keep everything documented in a calendar ( I'm assuming he threatens other things other than calling CPS) and get all the documentation from CPS, then take him to court. Courts don't take lightly false claims especially multiple false claims when they are unfounded. I'm sorry that your going through this, I share custody (although I have our son 80%) and know how exhausting it can be..seriously Document everything!!! And take him back to court! I hope you both can find.a solution so that your children don't suffer from all his drama.

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  • CPS, in my state, has recently implemented a new procedure for handling complaints. In the past, when they would receive a complaint, they would automatically launch an investigation. Now, they initiate an assessment following a complaint rather than immediately investigating. If they determine from their assessment that an investigation is necessary, the process begins. You need to speak with CPS about your ex making frivolous claims against you. Not only can YOU take legal action against him, but the state can as well.

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  • It's hard with CPS, they have to protect the identity of reporters. However, supposedly there is a law to protect people from harrassment and false reporting, but it's hard to pursue when you don't know exactly who is making the calls. I know it's either him, his mom, or his girlfriend.

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  • What a jerk. I also agree with the above poster, maybe a lawyer can help you.

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  • This is awful. Can your lawyer help?

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  • No it's not at all I'm sorry this is happening to you.

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