Is it normal to have an affection this strong for someone?

okay, so. i met this girl in 7th grade and i had the biggest crush on her. She was popular, i was (pretty much) a loser. we spoke (only becuase we had class) but i never even tried to do anything or tell her that i liked her and after middle school we never spoke....fast forward half a decade later..and now were in 12th grade, she goes to my rival school. i still have this strong "crush" on her. i follow her on twitter, she didnt follow back (she has like 1000 followers i cant blame her). i catch myself looking at all her pictures, imagining what my life would be like if we dated or if we were at least friends. and all of my friends are her friends, its sooo depressing. and what i think is weird is that i know alot about her. where she wants to go college, her whole name, her best friends, he ex bfs, where she lives, her dogs name, what car she drives, her age, birthday, her height, what celebritys she does and doesnt like,and i remember almost every encounter ive has with this woman...and about a month ago, i was at the gas station, and i saw her in person for the first time since middle school, we made eye contact. i was soooo happy. anyways, i know soooo much about her. and i dont think she remembers me at all. this is depressing. so is this an "unhealthy" affection i have with this woman? or is it normal?

Is It Normal?
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  • Talk to her!! Be confident, friendly and smile!!

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  • Common situation... But not really healthy. Either talk to her, or let her go.

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  • I met this girl in 7th grade and I was a total loser. She said a couple of nice things to me. But one time this guy made fun of me, and she laughed at me. I added her on Facebook so I can stalk her, lol, and couple of weeks later she deleted me, I don't know why.

    I made a fake Facebook account of a black guy (because she likes black guys) and to this day I still stalk her on it. Just through the internet you can find out so much about a person. I have a bunch of her pictures on my cellphone and computer. And I stalk her on Twitter and Instagram.

    Problem is she's too popular. And I dream about at least being her friend....

    So yeah, I'd say its normal but at the same time, not so much.

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  • The only way you can change things is by actually talking to her.

    Instead of waiting in the distance.

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  • I think that if you didnt spoke to her its just that you see her as an unreachable kinda girl, so its a mix between fisical attraction and an idealization of a person....And I think that speaks really bad about your psicology...You just like a popular girl and developed a so called obsesion just because the way she looks...You like the packaging ( physique) but you dont like the object itself ( personality ) Because you dont ACTUALLY KNOW HER! I think you should try to talk to her and see if its still the same...But im afraid this talks terribly about your morals...

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  • I don't think it's normal or healthy for you to continue this obsession.

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