Is it normal to have almost no desire for sex or dating anymore?

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I have such bad trust issues that the idea of putting myself out there for a relationship or even just sex causes me extreme anxiety. I can't open myself up to men anymore and I haven't even been attracted to someone in a long time. I'm tired of being alone, but I have been for 4 years and now I don't even know the steps to get out of this rut. I have men that are interested, but I just see trouble in it rather than potential happiness. Is this normal, or am I just supposed to be by myself?

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Based on 78 votes (49 yes)
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  • Anime7
    10 years ago

    Find meaning to your own life I guess. If you've been through a few bad relationships then I think it is normal to feel like being in a relationship is more trouble than it's worth. I don't blame you, that's why I say to do whatever makes you happy. Alternatively if you're feeling lonely, you don't have to go out and find a boyfriend; just a friend. But if you mean like lonely in bed, well honestly you could try to establish a friends with benefits relationship. No trouble, no mess (usually), just casual sex and friendship.

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    • (s)aint
      10 years ago

      I have had a FwB myself and in MY experience those kinds of things can be pretty dramatic too. I'd say that It isn't a good idea for this person to establish a sexual relationship with someone if he/she suffers from anxiety.

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      • purpmerp
        10 years ago

        I had a few FwBs, and it's just not something I want to deal with again. Someone usually gets attached, and I don't want to hurt or be hurt.

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        • (s)aint
          10 years ago

          Yeah. I'd do it again, but I will think twice before risking a frienship again.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Relationships are overrated and often a waste of time. Just do what you want

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

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    • ihaveapoon
      10 years ago

      Oh shut up & lick my hairy asshole

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      • peterr
        10 years ago

        AS you swallow my tasty big load of sweeet cum OK, but shave first. I don't like hairy bums. Take a fucking shower too you dirty birdie.

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        • peterr
          10 years ago

          Wait until Dirtybirdy hears you say that you cuckold shitlicker.

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        • ihaveapoon
          10 years ago

          LMAO

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I find sex relieves anxiety, but ok.

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  • JadedUnknown
    10 years ago

    Yes. It's normal.. in fact, I desire to have no face to face human interaction at this moment.

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  • Ipooprainbows
    10 years ago

    I'm the exact same and 19

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  • linchpin
    10 years ago

    I sense a yearning in you, despite the despondence you feel. You can use that. In that lies the spirit you need to recover interest in the opposite sex.

    Good luck. All the best.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    I'd suggest you just go out to a club you wouldn't normally frequent, find a good looking boy and have some fun. Give him a phony name, no address or phone # and don't get his info. Just have some uncomplicated fun.
    Stop worrying about what's gone before; it's in the past. Don't let your "garbage" rule your life. You are no the only one with lots of "garbage" from your past, but you will self-destruct any future relationship if you do not move beyond it all.
    Good luck, it's hard work, but worth it.

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    • tripw7
      10 years ago

      I like your straight forward uncomplicated way to "break the cycle" in your life. If you are up to it, take protection of course, and by all means have some fun and release yourself from this spell of the fear being involved. You don't have to be to be happy and stable with yourself. Good luck!

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  • Jimbobasaur
    10 years ago

    There are a lot of happy people who live single. Like Peter Joseph, who puts forward a lot to this world.

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  • Sumi
    10 years ago

    If you have not been dating in awhile start by making a few new friends. Lower pressure and will likely make you smile rather than cry. Plus they will introduce you to more people it is much easier to approach.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    I'm happy alone. But you, on the other hand, don't sound happy alone.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Carry on doing what makes you happy.

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