Is it normal to have absolutely no self-confidence

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I'm not sure if anybody else goes through this, but I really, really have no self-confidence..
I sometimes speak in school but I don't speak that much, not even to my friends.
Everybody know's me as the shy one or the quiet one and I hate it.
I don't leave the house that often because I am worried about what people might think of me, and it has come to the point were I just want to cry about it.
And when I do go out I feel like everybody is looking at me..
I just really want to build my self-confidence and be able to speak to people and have the courage to go out and not think that everybody is looking at me.
I hope somebody has a solution for me..

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  • JCA
    12 years ago | pl

    I had the same as you! And it really sucks till a couple months ago a teacher told me to think only about myself (pretty selffish but it works) and to stop think what others think of me because i did not had any self confidence he said. I was always busy with what people may think of me if i did something. And when people were talking wich each other I thought that they were talking about me.(and that they didn't said nice things) But than something fased me and i thought: I am sick of it that i can't show myself! I am perfect in every way and I don't fucking care what people think of me! And once you realize that, you will see that people are starting to like you and hang out more with you. I chanced after i did that. It is really easy now for me to step to someone to say or ask something. And before, I didn't had the balls to do that to be honest! I now know why i didn't had any self confidence. I was terribly bullied on primary school so i was affraid if it might would happen again! But there is really nothing to be affraid of. I hope I helped you with your problem!
    Succes!!!

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  • rayst
    12 years ago | pl

    The more you stay alone at home the less your self confidence will be. Go out, call people over!

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  • thegift
    12 years ago | pl

    Take the confidence from someone weaker than you by punching them in the face. Works like a charm.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    Also, I am a diabetic and have been since I was 5. And my dad left when I was younger and till this day never bothered with me..
    I just thought that maybe these things could trigger my lack of self-confidence?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    Im a girl @weirdguy

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  • JCA
    12 years ago | pl

    @weirdguy: thats true. And in the gym you will meet new people and friends that are good for your confidence!

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  • weirdguy
    12 years ago | pl

    If u are dude I think you should trying working out that will help improve your self esteem and try not to worry about what others think of you I know it's not easy but just persist.

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  • xxxMissFitxxx
    12 years ago | pl

    I'm exactly the same and have always been like it.

    I don't know how old you are but i'm 22 and it's still holding me back in everything so if you find a solution I wanna know about it.

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