It's not purely about looks though, it mostly has to with the way they actually FEEL to me, physically. A girl touching me with chubby cold fingers does nothing to get me excited sexually, whereas slender, warm, defined fingers touching me, excites me through-the-roof instantly. Putting my arms around a big cold flabby body is also a turn-off, whereas putting my arms around a nice warm slender body is a turn-on.
So it's not a simple matter of looks trumping personality. It wouldn't be fair to force myself to date a girl for her personality alone, while leaving her sexually unfulfilled and frustrated. Girls deserve a man who is into them mentally, emotionally, AND physically. There are plenty of other men who are attracted to bigger girls, and that's the kind of man they should go for.
To put things in contrast, when I first met my ex, she still had a rubber feeding tube sticking out of her belly, after recently having a double-lung transplant, due to cystic fibrosis that almost killed her. She also has diabetes, and takes tons of pills daily to survive. I liked her personality, thought she was cute, dated her, and wound up in a relationship with her for over a year. We're still very close friends to this day. Most other guys would probably consider her a sickly twig, but I saw past her illnesses, accepted her, had physical attraction, and fell in love with her.
Is it normal to have a sexual aversion to chubby girls? Am I shallow?
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It's not purely about looks though, it mostly has to with the way they actually FEEL to me, physically. A girl touching me with chubby cold fingers does nothing to get me excited sexually, whereas slender, warm, defined fingers touching me, excites me through-the-roof instantly. Putting my arms around a big cold flabby body is also a turn-off, whereas putting my arms around a nice warm slender body is a turn-on.
So it's not a simple matter of looks trumping personality. It wouldn't be fair to force myself to date a girl for her personality alone, while leaving her sexually unfulfilled and frustrated. Girls deserve a man who is into them mentally, emotionally, AND physically. There are plenty of other men who are attracted to bigger girls, and that's the kind of man they should go for.
To put things in contrast, when I first met my ex, she still had a rubber feeding tube sticking out of her belly, after recently having a double-lung transplant, due to cystic fibrosis that almost killed her. She also has diabetes, and takes tons of pills daily to survive. I liked her personality, thought she was cute, dated her, and wound up in a relationship with her for over a year. We're still very close friends to this day. Most other guys would probably consider her a sickly twig, but I saw past her illnesses, accepted her, had physical attraction, and fell in love with her.
I just can't get past chub.