hmmm..I guess someone could have a favourite child..I mean we're human, it could happen..it's like emotions, you just can't help it..but there are two problems with your story, first, your brother's reasons seem to be all wrong or silly :S I mean "smarter, popular, athletic", what is that? I thought someone might have a special place in their heart for one of their children, if they could depend on that son/daughter, if that child helped them at some point of their lives, if they take care of you, if it is a child with some problem perhaps..like he's not as happy or healthy as the rest, etc. But the scenario you've mentioned sounds to me like a junior idolizing a high-school senior or sth :D
2nd thing, now I feel for the 2nd son :( It is always hard to be a middle/second child, because mostly the eldest is the one who take all their parents' attention. By the time they get a 2nd or 3rd child, it's nothing new, and so they let those children depend on themselves. The 2nd son might be "mellow" like you said, because his dad doesn't shower him with the same interest, he might have low self-esteem too..and apparently he is not outspoken or the type of person who would ask for help (that's what I got from your words). Maybe he's intimidated by his parents' lack of interest or encouragment. You should draw your brother's attention to that..He might unintentionally be depressing or disappointing his son..It might either affect his personality negatively or it might make him rebel against his family later :S
My family was the same way. My sister got straight As and graduated with Honor's and lots of extra-curriculars and I was a late bloomer and a rebel. She was younger but she was the favorite. My brother was a reject like me. I guess because we were the middle children.
Is it normal to have a favorite son?
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hmmm..I guess someone could have a favourite child..I mean we're human, it could happen..it's like emotions, you just can't help it..but there are two problems with your story, first, your brother's reasons seem to be all wrong or silly :S I mean "smarter, popular, athletic", what is that? I thought someone might have a special place in their heart for one of their children, if they could depend on that son/daughter, if that child helped them at some point of their lives, if they take care of you, if it is a child with some problem perhaps..like he's not as happy or healthy as the rest, etc. But the scenario you've mentioned sounds to me like a junior idolizing a high-school senior or sth :D
2nd thing, now I feel for the 2nd son :( It is always hard to be a middle/second child, because mostly the eldest is the one who take all their parents' attention. By the time they get a 2nd or 3rd child, it's nothing new, and so they let those children depend on themselves. The 2nd son might be "mellow" like you said, because his dad doesn't shower him with the same interest, he might have low self-esteem too..and apparently he is not outspoken or the type of person who would ask for help (that's what I got from your words). Maybe he's intimidated by his parents' lack of interest or encouragment. You should draw your brother's attention to that..He might unintentionally be depressing or disappointing his son..It might either affect his personality negatively or it might make him rebel against his family later :S
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My family was the same way. My sister got straight As and graduated with Honor's and lots of extra-curriculars and I was a late bloomer and a rebel. She was younger but she was the favorite. My brother was a reject like me. I guess because we were the middle children.