You are probably headed down a road that will cause both guys and yourself a lot of pain. When you are in a relationship, it just isn't proper to be that invested in another guy.
Time to choose one or the other and stop messing about.
1.I dont understand why you say you have a crush and than say "Oh I just want a friend" that really does not make sense. Either you are confused about whats happening, or you want to fuck him and are lying. Make up your mind. Until you do we cant really give you great feedback.
2.Yes, if you are friends with a guy who obviously trying to get in your pants while you are taken I think its betraying your BF.
3.I dont see anything wrong with having male friends while dating a guy, unless of course scenario 2 is the case.
4.Why did you suddenly drop all your male friends when you got a BF? Did your BF make you get rid of all your guy friends? Since if he did that sounds like an issue with your BF.
Thanks for trying to clarify my already confusing information.
I was writing a very long answer and then I just had an epiphany of what may be going on here.
I have met new male friends since I have a BF, a good example is one guy whom I was working on a project with. We held meetings just the 2 of us and it was ok because it was all about the project and I could tell that he was not at all interested in flirting or anything more than a successful project and being just friends.
This new guy... he has another vibe. We spend more time talking than actually working, from day one. I see the difference now. That's what's been making me feel awkward.
If he is into you and you can feel it I would recommend staying away from him. Either hes going to come onto you and probably force it when you say no. That or hes going to pursue you and wait till you have an issue with your BF(Which will happen, it does in all relationships) and tell you to dump him. Kind of how guys like this work.
Have guy friends, that does not make you a cheater or a whore. Do not string along people you know are planning on jumping your bones, and can't respect the fact you are taken. Does he know you have a BF?
IIN to have a crush while on a relationship?
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You are probably headed down a road that will cause both guys and yourself a lot of pain. When you are in a relationship, it just isn't proper to be that invested in another guy.
Time to choose one or the other and stop messing about.
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It worries me to think that maybe I'm so sad in my relationship that I find this friendship soooo refreshing and make such a deal of it.
(The only mess is in my head, I don't plan to hurt anybody.)
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As some Scottish poet a few hundred years back maybe said, "The best-laid plans of mice and men (women, in this case) often go awry...."
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1.I dont understand why you say you have a crush and than say "Oh I just want a friend" that really does not make sense. Either you are confused about whats happening, or you want to fuck him and are lying. Make up your mind. Until you do we cant really give you great feedback.
2.Yes, if you are friends with a guy who obviously trying to get in your pants while you are taken I think its betraying your BF.
3.I dont see anything wrong with having male friends while dating a guy, unless of course scenario 2 is the case.
4.Why did you suddenly drop all your male friends when you got a BF? Did your BF make you get rid of all your guy friends? Since if he did that sounds like an issue with your BF.
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Thanks for trying to clarify my already confusing information.
I was writing a very long answer and then I just had an epiphany of what may be going on here.
I have met new male friends since I have a BF, a good example is one guy whom I was working on a project with. We held meetings just the 2 of us and it was ok because it was all about the project and I could tell that he was not at all interested in flirting or anything more than a successful project and being just friends.
This new guy... he has another vibe. We spend more time talking than actually working, from day one. I see the difference now. That's what's been making me feel awkward.
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If he is into you and you can feel it I would recommend staying away from him. Either hes going to come onto you and probably force it when you say no. That or hes going to pursue you and wait till you have an issue with your BF(Which will happen, it does in all relationships) and tell you to dump him. Kind of how guys like this work.
Have guy friends, that does not make you a cheater or a whore. Do not string along people you know are planning on jumping your bones, and can't respect the fact you are taken. Does he know you have a BF?