Is it normal to have “imaginary conversations”?

I am a 19 year old boy, I know this sounds EXTREMELY weird, but hear me out. I somewhat recently realized that I often have “imaginary” conversations in my head with people, usually when I’m alone at night. I’ve lived under abusive parents for years. They took me out of school years ago and I have basically never left the house except when absolutely necessary (I’m going to be getting out of that situation soon, though, thankfully), so I have absolutely no one to talk to. I was “pre-diagnosed” with a bit of depression the last time I was at the dr’s after a screening, though I never went back for a more thorough examination. I found that I often at night have lengthy conversations with people I knew from the past. Often I’ll imagine I’m venting to one of my teachers from middle school, explaining everything that has happened the last several years, or I’ll be venting to this one boy I knew from then and almost became friends with (I had some social anxiety then and didn’t really socialize well). Other times I’ll imagine I’m talking to a completely imaginary friend, venting to them, talking about things I like or ideas I’ve had, talking about the future, or just talking about stupid stuff like something I seen on TV. I’ll also imagine venting to my parents, building up the courage to completely blow up on them and tell them exactly how I feel about them and how bad they’ve hurt me. Other times I’ll imagine I have the courage and strength to hurt them physically the way they hurt me emotionally. II only recently realized this might be unusual one night after I had a rather lengthy conversation and began wondering if this is normal or something I should be concerned about. Often times I’ll end the conversations in tears and cry for a while. The conversations feel like the most amazing release, especially if I end up crying, and it helps me to sleep. I also find that nights I don’t practice this I tend to be more likely to have nightmares. It’s odd as I wouldn’t say they’re uncontrollable, but I sort of slip into them without realizing and don’t realize it until I’m halfway through or finished and I realize I’m in another one of my conversations. Is this normal? Please tell me someone else does this. Should I talk to a doctor? I really do appreciate your thoughts and help, so thanks in advance.

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86% Normal
Based on 22 votes (19 yes)
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  • CountessDouche

    I'm so sorry for what you went through, but yeah, fucking way more normal than you think.

    You point me out a person who hasn't told off someone in their head, bitched out their shitty boss in the shower, or pointed at their cat, while finally come up with that epic burn to show their 5th grade bully who's fucking boss around these parts.

    Everyone does it to an extent & if it makes you cry & provides a release...that is a fucking good thing. It is good to feel as if you have a voice (even when you're alone), especially after the type of abuse that gives you no voice.

    Here's my rules for shit you should worry about:
    Does it hurt you?
    Does it hurt other people?
    Does it hurt animals?
    Does it interfere with your health & happiness?

    If not, then keep doing it. Who fucking cares if it's weird? It might help you release all of the toxic, ugly pain & trauma you've been holding in after experiencing awful things at the hands of others. You should let all of that out. Tell those fuckers out, argue in the shower & fucking cry if you need to. That's a-ok...that's fucking awesome.

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  • McBean

    Normal. I have conversations with imaginary people because they are more intelligent than most real people who will talk to me. I also flirt with imaginary women, because real women think I look like a creep.

    IIN helps with this problem in a significant way. Other people's alts may be imaginary for them but if the character is consistent, the benefit of the conversation is real for you.

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  • gaz3912

    Join a lonely hearts club.

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  • Garthh

    I do this exact thing! Sometimes it's an imaginary therapist or something sometimes it's my parents or friends I imagine. It's my way to tell people what's going on with me without actually telling them

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  • mia500

    I do the same thing, and I thought I was the only one but for certain reasons I’ve come to learn just how common it is for people. Talk it out if you have to.. just be careful of your mood. If you’re crying every day that can be a sign of depression so make sure you’re letting your emotions out in a healthy/productive way.

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  • dimwitted

    You're lonely and that's your escape route.

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  • RoseIsabella

    I'm so sorry that your parents were so abusive. What was their reasoning, or excuse for taking you out of school?

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