Is it normal to hate yourself completely because of a boy? :/

I really needed to hear people's (who are not too close) opinion 'cause this is really killing me. Here's the story; I'm a high school girl who used to have a lot of confidence and loved everybody around me. I was even named as the school's hottie. Until a boy broke my heart. We were like friends, not too close though - but I fell for him! And as soon as I told it to my friend she then told him and he began flirting around. I was extremely happy back then. At the end of my first year in high school, we dated - we had dated in over a half year now. & what he always wanted is to have sex all the time! And because I loved him so much, I just did everything he wanted. After this half year, I find out from my friend (she doesn't go in the same school but knows him since I talk SO much about him, and cause he is a friend of her best friend too) that my so called boyfriend has been dating her best friend/our mutual friend in 3 months now, while dating me!! And she knew all about it our relationship but that he always told her that I mean nothing and she's his greatest love. Which I believe - they've never had sex!! At the moment I found out I even thought of killing myself!! Words can't describe what I feel now. He was everything to me, and it turned out he only used me. I feel like a huge joke for both of them. Like imagining all the times where she hang out with us, they were truly in love while I only was the puppet to satisfy him. Please how can I feel better? Everybody says that I'm waaaaay prettier than her, but of course look means nothing when it comes to love. Is it normal to be this upset?

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Based on 69 votes (48 yes)
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Comments ( 12 )
  • Juanita023

    It's messed up what he did to you, but you need to be strong. Don't let what he did to you define who you are. Don't give him that power. He's not losing sleep over what he did to you so you shouldn't have to either. I know it's easier said than done, but you have to remain strong. Try not to focus on him and focus on yourself and what makes you happy. Get rid of everything that reminds you of him if you can. Out of sight, out of mind. That will help you get through the pain a lot better.

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  • Mastersash

    definitely normal.. that bitch will burn in hell and your misery won't last forever, sweetheart!! both of them are tied into the laws of karma, and guess what perty gurl, you got a bag full of sunshine coming your way because your actually a decent human beings with FEELINGS! those people seriously might be dead inside.. you should really feel lucky to know that you could NEVER be as heartless as them who don't give a fuck about anyone else but themselves.. and, well, isn't that something to smile about? u actually have a soul.

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  • marley56

    Yes, of course your justified in being pissed about that! It absolutely sucks! I'm SOO so sorry to hear this... Even though I don't know you, I feel for you. Life is tough, and relationships are there hardest part of it. You just need time to get over it... It can take awhile. But don't worry, it will pass eventually :) I hope you find a guy that treats you right and loves you for you! You deserve it!

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  • happyB

    It's normal to be upset, but time will heal you if you make an effort to move on. You will regain your confidence in time. Boys are not worth your self worth, ever, so never let one talk you into doing something stupid for him. And show some more respect for your body by waiting for sec until you actually know the person you are giving yourself to.

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  • Thorolf

    He's a total asshole, you deserve better. Don't let a jerk define how good you are.

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  • Daydreamer63

    Oh my gosh I can't imagine that! My heart goes out to you there are people who love you. That man is evil he doesn't deserve your love. And you're friend who was also dating him at the same time as you did she know? If he cheated then why would she want him? I hope you feel better and you will find a guy who really cares someday <3

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  • St.kelly

    Hi my sister . Don't let what fuckabule older guy did u define who u are. God will comfort you, turn ur sorrows into gladness, ur waste land like d garden of d lard. St.kelly

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  • Greth

    Dont hate yourself hate him for making you hate yourself. Burn a pic of his face slap his face in public if you need ideas email me

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    • Thorolf

      Uh... She could best up doing that. I wouldn't suggest attacking an older boy if you're a girl, unless you're seriously buff. Just sayin.

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  • TheForbiddenHottie

    forget all about the bloody fag.. you are a pretty, friendly girl.. you'll deinitely find someone way better than him.. all the guys who used to treat me like sh*t, now want me like anything.. try not to date anyone before knowing them well, hanging around a little, getting to know them.. do you get what i mean? find someone who respects you.. all the best!

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  • so_damn_unpretty

    this is a really sad story girl :( im sorry you dated such a dick. but i beleive in karma. he'll get his just deserts. as for you, youll find the one, and he'll treat you like the princess you are. dont go killing yourself now cause your sole mate is out there looking for you and can't wait to meet you!

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  • luicyyou

    Aww yes this can be normal to hate yourself cause of a boy

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