Is it normal to hate your parents?

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My father is an emotionally abusive narcissist who doesn't respect women and my mother is an insecure, judgmental woman who represses her feelings so much that shes starting to lose her mind. My dad is addicted to weed and my mom has the audacity to tell me I smoke too much myself, they both openly criticize me for being a vegan and never seem interested in what I have to say about my writing or my novel ideas. I just hate the energy they give off and I always feel so angry and frustrated around them because they don't understand me at all. I don't even miss them when I'm not around them.

I hold a lot of resentment towards my dad for screwing me up as a person (especially in my early childhood), and I have resentment towards my mom for letting him get away with it. He never molested me and he's only physically abused me a few times, but it was the emotional abuse that was most damaging. The constant fear he inflicted on me would turn my stomach to knots -- I always felt like I was rotting from the inside. He's like a fucking cancer.

The thing that bothers me the most is that I'm so much like both of them, and they're such polar opposites that I feel like a schizophrenic. I just wish they never got married and never had me or my brother because they created two very messed up introverts.

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  • 8Serene8
    12 years ago | pl

    Yeah with parents like that I don't blame you for hating them.

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  • damselindistress
    12 years ago | pl

    Yes, some parents are liars and manipulators. Some are emotionally and physically abusive.

    My dad, mom and fucking eldest brothers are all liars, manipulators, emotionally and physically abusive.

    It's extremely normal to hate these kind of people.

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  • lun
    12 years ago | pl

    i hate my parents too. my dad is such a bitch. but i love my mom. but still i am frustrated with her because she always laughs like if my dad says that he hates me and i should of never been brought into this world. my mom just laughs.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    i agree with 8serene8 and i hope you and your brother end up ok. dont bother talking about your interests to them cause they will just find fault and bring you down. good luck to the both of you

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  • Elegy
    12 years ago | pl

    Tlak to them.Make them understand that they should divorse and see a therapist

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  • Daddio
    12 years ago | pl

    Unfortunately you are not alone with this experience. Yes it's very normal to feel this way. The sad thing here is they more than likely love you heaps and you being very young can't see that. Nobody is perfect. So take a fucking chill pill will you. And it's probably best you take in your ass because it will work faster! Lol.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago | pl

      Just because she's young doesn't mean she should be discredited. Emotional abuse is not something to take lightly, and I'm tired of people being insensitive towards teenagers who are damaged because of asshole parents like this, calling them spoiled and ungrateful, saying they're young and dont understand, that it's "normal" to hate your parents. It is NOT NORMAL. It takes a VERY weak and evil person to pick on a child like that, especially their own child. Children with abusive and emotionally distant parents have 48% higher chance of developing autoimmune disorders. How do you explain that? Did you know that a baby can't even develop and grow properly without the love and touch of it's own mother? How your parents treated you as a child is so incredibly significant. I wish I could tell this to all abusive parents.

      This person's parents can love her until they're blue in the face, but that doesn't mean what they did should just be forgotten, even if it could be. Whoever wrote this question will probably lead a very troubled life because of that.

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