Having a bad relationship with your mom is probably not the norm, but how you are feeling about it is normal, don't worry.
I think a lot of parents forget that THEY are the parent and they are suppose to be there for their child and not the other way around. It's the parents responsibility to maintain a good relationship with their child. Unfortunately, some parents think it's all about them and how they are feeling; believing that it's their child that is the sole problem, when in all reality, it is them that is the failure.
If you want to have a better relationship with your selfish mother, then you will have to be the one who makes the first move. If you don't care about your relationship with her, you can always cut your ties with her and the rest of your family and move on. I think you DO want a relationship with her, otherwise you wouldn't have asked if it's normal and what you can do about it.
In that case, I think you should let her know, in a non-hostile manner, how you feel. Keep the conversation blame-free and only about feelings. If she starts pointing the finger of blame at you, don't let that get you worked up - stay calm. Hear what she has to say and ask her what you could do to make her feel happier with you. If she's open to it, be specific about what you need from her to feel good about your relationship. Never talk about it when you are in the middle of a fight.
Is it normal to hate your mother?
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Having a bad relationship with your mom is probably not the norm, but how you are feeling about it is normal, don't worry.
I think a lot of parents forget that THEY are the parent and they are suppose to be there for their child and not the other way around. It's the parents responsibility to maintain a good relationship with their child. Unfortunately, some parents think it's all about them and how they are feeling; believing that it's their child that is the sole problem, when in all reality, it is them that is the failure.
If you want to have a better relationship with your selfish mother, then you will have to be the one who makes the first move. If you don't care about your relationship with her, you can always cut your ties with her and the rest of your family and move on. I think you DO want a relationship with her, otherwise you wouldn't have asked if it's normal and what you can do about it.
In that case, I think you should let her know, in a non-hostile manner, how you feel. Keep the conversation blame-free and only about feelings. If she starts pointing the finger of blame at you, don't let that get you worked up - stay calm. Hear what she has to say and ask her what you could do to make her feel happier with you. If she's open to it, be specific about what you need from her to feel good about your relationship. Never talk about it when you are in the middle of a fight.