Is it normal to hate your moms boyfriend?

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Well frankly is it normal to hate your mom's boyfriend? I have this hateful feelings toward my mom and boyfriend and i mean i dont want to have these hateful feelings I am a really nice sweet. But i dont know why I'm just really mad at her she is 38 going to be 39 in november and her boyfriend is FREAKING 18!!!! I mean comon she couldn't have someone in here age group! And get this she use to critize people about this same thing like we would see a girl 25 with a 50 year old man and she use to get so mad about it and say mean stuff she is just being a hypocrite! and i've talked to her about it and she says its just a little something but i told her it might be a little something for you but its not for him you should see him he is head over heels for her and she doesn't get it people! And sometimes i just want to run away or hurt myself sometimes ( I won't i promise not to hurt myself )it's very hard for me to share my mom because it's been just us since i was 6 my dad left and it's just been my mom my sister and me and then to add more on he died last summer and it's coming up on his 1 year anniversary and i just can't handle it anymore !!
I don't know what to do anymore this is what makes me really upset is that they are showering together naked and she says she going to break up with him HA! she is just digging herself deeper and deeper into this relationship and she is going to dig herself so far she not going to be able to get herself out.Oh and yesterday was the last straw in my mind! she came downstairs with a HICKEY ON HER NECK!! so i sat her down even though i'm her daughter i told her she is just digging herself deeper and that their showering together is also doing that they have dated for 2 months and their already at the 6 month stage !! so i got so mad i took ALL HER CONDOMS !! I'm just doing this for her i know it doesnt sound like it but if you were here you would too! And she really needs to get out of this relationship i mean he wants kids and my mom can't give him that she's fixed i mean the burned them shut ! so she cant even get them reversed and plus my mom almost died giving birth to me and my sister and she is way past here child years. I know this is alot but i really need some advice soon!! Please before i do something i regret. you can contact me at [email protected]
P.S he is my neighbor also!

Thank you

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Based on 7 votes (6 yes)
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  • Lol1234
    7 years ago

    I have a similar problem . My mom is immature and her boyfriend is trash.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    i have to agree... it sounds like you're really upset with HER choices, but that you're blaming him for taking up with her.

    The problem here is that... she's not really doing anything wrong.

    I know you don't LIKE what she's doing and that it hurts your feelings. Perhaps you feel that it means she never loved your father if she can find love in the arms of someone else. BUT finding love again is part of moving on.

    And in all honesty, if it's shallow love like you suspect, it may just be that she's lonely without him.

    But no matter how much you miss your father, it's wrong to assume she has to live the life of a nun from now on. Eventually you're going to have to accept that her life isn't over yet.

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  • 362led
    11 years ago

    Oops I meant yes

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I feel for you sweetheart. If my mom was doing that or had a boyfriend that was only 18 I would be frustrated as well. But here's the thing if you don't like the situation then maybe trying to ignore it will help. But I don't know everything on this topic so I guess maybe i'm not the best person to give you advice but it is normal, what your feeling. It is very normal. I know you've talked to your mom about it so why don't you try talking to her boyfriend. That might help a bit.

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  • randomjelly
    12 years ago

    As much as it sucks to hear...they are both consenting adults. Let your mom have her fun while she still can.

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  • AngAnders112
    12 years ago

    You just need to give her a big hug and tell her you love her.

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  • Canttellanyoneanything
    12 years ago

    Thank you for the advice and you are right about the title and my frustrations and your advice is going to be used thanks you

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  • FocoUS
    12 years ago

    WHOA! First off this is titled that you hate her boyfriend but clearly all of your frustrations are aimed towards you mother.

    Talk to your mother, intervention like. Tell her some of the things you told us. Mention her hypocrisy and change of heart. Say your problem with it. And if she dismisses you (like she's done before) go to a friend of hers. When it comes to family issues some people really need an outside voice. Express your concerns with an adult friend of hers and ask them to talk some sense into your mother.

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