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my bfs family r always picking on me and him for some reason or another, i used to go around a lot now i avoid them.. i feel so tense and uptight wen im there his mom makes me feel so uncomfortable.. i want to try and get along with them for his sake but im starting to really hate them!
Further to both good replies above and especially joybird's.
Your boyfriend should not feel antagonistic to his own family, even if an outside (big) influence such as a GF feels uncomfortable or 'tense'.
If sides were asked for he may choose you but this will be only for the short term, hence the reason he still wants you to go around there.
Try to get along with them, as little as possible. (without bitching to anyone)
Do not complain to your bf about his family but continue to make excuses as to why you can't visit his house. If you do complain you will find that in the heat of an argument, he will tell them exactly what you said about them!! Be very careful with this area of your relationship. It's better if they know nothing about you, and better that you don't have to suffer them either!
But remember, it's not his fault - so don't whine on at him about them! Rise above it.
i used to have the same feeling for my boyfriends family , well just his dad's side . they would pick on me either talking all their bull' about me , make me look bad in front of my boyfriend , which actually is now my ex . i avoided them ! that was the best way they'd see that you're mature enough to walk away from immaturity , i ignored his family for months ! until they started asking him how i was doing , or invited me over for a dinner or something , i tried to get along with the the best i could have until i got sick of them ! 'cus all they really did was break me and my boyfriend apart , try not to have them over come onto your relationship with your boyfriend !
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