You're responding to many comments on here with the same comments over and over. Do you have a job? Or are you a stay at home mom? You seem to be very defensive of this excuse to not work or go outside of a home someone else is paying for.
Did you miss this part of my first post: "I've done work+house/child care, work+spouse did (some) house/child care and stay at home mom. They all have their pros and cons and which one is 'right' varies by the individual and their partner."
Like I have said...you don't know what these couples' values, finances or job prospects are. You have this narrow-minded, COMPLETELY uninformed opinion formulated. In your eyes, one is living off of the working partner. Period. No exceptions. No information needed. Again, explain how that is valid? You know NOTHING about these people and why they live like this yet you are the authority that gets to decide that it's wrong/lazy/immoral? I know several people who would knock your fucking teeth in for implying that their partner lives off them.
I'm being hateful, and you're telling me I'm going to get my fucking teeth knocked out by daring to notice that a person (really it doesn't have to be a woman, but society is infinitely more critical of men in the stay at home situation) who makes no income is living off the income of a person they live with. Do stay at home moms never eat? Do they sleep outside? Of course not, they eat food and live in houses paid for by other people, therefore they are living off of said people. Simple logic really
How do you have a kid and still pay all your bills? You either have to earn enough or have one parent stay at home. It's not 'living off of someone' if your contribution is worth what it would cost to hire a babysitter, maid, chef and accountant. It's also not your call to say someone is living off someone else...some people hold the value that says I won't have kids unless me or my SO can stay home with them. Those are the people who have an issue with you...the people who decided what's right for their life whether it's moral or financial. Where do you get off declaring that to be wrong or usury?
It wouldn't work that way. Part time jobs generally don't have benefits which are crucial if you have a family. Then you're also talking day care which could easily eat up your entire salary. Or if the parents work opposite days/shifts, but then the family is never all together...what's the point? And then both parents have to work AND share housework 50/50? Who the fuck wants to do that especially if the financial side doesn't add up? For many families, doing this would cost too much in money, quality time, stress, losing health coverage, etc.
IIN to hate "stay at home moms"?
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You're responding to many comments on here with the same comments over and over. Do you have a job? Or are you a stay at home mom? You seem to be very defensive of this excuse to not work or go outside of a home someone else is paying for.
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Jeez, you're ignorant.
Did you miss this part of my first post: "I've done work+house/child care, work+spouse did (some) house/child care and stay at home mom. They all have their pros and cons and which one is 'right' varies by the individual and their partner."
Like I have said...you don't know what these couples' values, finances or job prospects are. You have this narrow-minded, COMPLETELY uninformed opinion formulated. In your eyes, one is living off of the working partner. Period. No exceptions. No information needed. Again, explain how that is valid? You know NOTHING about these people and why they live like this yet you are the authority that gets to decide that it's wrong/lazy/immoral? I know several people who would knock your fucking teeth in for implying that their partner lives off them.
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I'm being hateful, and you're telling me I'm going to get my fucking teeth knocked out by daring to notice that a person (really it doesn't have to be a woman, but society is infinitely more critical of men in the stay at home situation) who makes no income is living off the income of a person they live with. Do stay at home moms never eat? Do they sleep outside? Of course not, they eat food and live in houses paid for by other people, therefore they are living off of said people. Simple logic really
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How do you have a kid and still pay all your bills? You either have to earn enough or have one parent stay at home. It's not 'living off of someone' if your contribution is worth what it would cost to hire a babysitter, maid, chef and accountant. It's also not your call to say someone is living off someone else...some people hold the value that says I won't have kids unless me or my SO can stay home with them. Those are the people who have an issue with you...the people who decided what's right for their life whether it's moral or financial. Where do you get off declaring that to be wrong or usury?
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Okay makes sense, so why not both couples share responsibilities and then the other one would only have to work half as hard at a job!
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It wouldn't work that way. Part time jobs generally don't have benefits which are crucial if you have a family. Then you're also talking day care which could easily eat up your entire salary. Or if the parents work opposite days/shifts, but then the family is never all together...what's the point? And then both parents have to work AND share housework 50/50? Who the fuck wants to do that especially if the financial side doesn't add up? For many families, doing this would cost too much in money, quality time, stress, losing health coverage, etc.