IIN to hate "stay at home moms"?

Why do you care so much? Just let it be. You don't care for or relate to that stuff, and that's fine. Don't waste too much time obsessing over how much the whole stay at home mom thing annoys you. I don't think it's a bad thing to be a stay at home mom, but I don't need people inundating me with how wonderful they think their life choices are either. Maybe you need to distance yourself from these friends and spend less time on Facebook?

I remember about 17 years ago a dear friend nagging me all time about my life. We had grown up and met in the same big metropolitan city, but at the the time I was living out of state. I was following my dream and working in radio broadcasting in a medium to small market, and she was living in a big city as a full time working mom of two. She would nag me about how I had to get my life together and essentially move back to the big city, take a hum drum 9 to 5 job, then have some kids. Don't get me wrong, I love living in a large metropolitan area, but at the time the issue was whether or not my husband and I could get jobs in our fields in such a place. It's not that I didn't necessarily want kids either, but I wanted it in my time, and on my terms. I was working part-time in my field of study and had a fair amount of spare time on my hands so honestly I suspect she may have been jealous of me or trying to justify her life choices to herself by projecting her stuff onto me.

I think on a certain level I would have been fine being a stay at home mom as long as I could at least work part time in my field, but first I wanted to strive towards full-time status, and see how far I could take my dreams at least.

Well, I'm glad I didn't listen to her! I eventually found myself wanting to have kids with my then husband, but about a year later after suffering two major deaths in our family I discovered he was cheating on me with this awful woman from his work. Just like that our marriage and my hopes of children went poof like a fart in the wind. We separated, I hired a lawyer, filed for divorce and ended up moving across country to a city I hated to be near family. Sure, it wasn't easy, and may very well have not been the best choice for me, but I least I did it on my own terms. Divorce and infidelity are not uncommon to say the least, but I honestly don't think I'm the kind of person who would enjoy being a single mother, because I'm not so attached to the idea of having children and responsibility that I would ever want to do so at all costs like some women do. So like I said before I'm really glad I didn't listen to my dear, bossy, nagging and most likely codependent friend.

To be honest I wonder if the stay at home moms who are annoying you so much on Facebook maybe make such a big deal about what they're doing, because they're trying to justify their life choices to themselves. I do rather agree with Dr Phil, because I think it's a very hard job as it was my own mother's job, but I don't think it's for everyone. My mom was and still is the opposite of lazy and she works her ass off cooking, cleaning, doing all the housework, yard work and all the shopping. My dad never had to lift a finger in the house, but he worked his ass off too with a full-time job at the post office, a part time job at a local TV station and the Army Reserve. Those were my parents' choices and I'm grateful for them, but I dunno if I could do the same. I think the full-time housewife and mother gig can be just as hard or easy as one makes it depending on how industrious or lazy that person is.

I guess I'm wondering if part of your annoyance with these Facebook friends may be with whether or not you feel pressured from them to adopt the same lifestyle or not. God knows I certainly felt pressured. Hell, my friend outright told me to adopt a similar lifestyle to hers, because she claimed it would be fun for us to do it all together. I wonder if there is a setting on Facebook where you can put the posts of these friends kinda in the background or if you can ignore them for a while at least? I don't really do social media, because I feel like it can be too emotionally triggering, causes people to waste too much time being petty and comparing themselves to each other. I also try not to watch reality TV either, because it's a waste of time for reasons that are not dissimilar.

Sorry my response to your post was so long. Perhaps these women have some sort of of martyr complex, but then again they could very well be entirely happy with their lives and just wishing to share that with others. Regardless I think it's annoying and stressing you out; you have a right to your feelings. Honor yourself by not wasting too much time and emotion on things that annoy you, because your time is a precious commodity. You do you, girl!