Is it normal to hate someone because ?

23% Normal
8 Comments

This isn't about me it's about my brother, he's 20 years old, I'm 18, and for some reason he hates the living shit out of me. Whenever I try to ask him what I did wrong he tells me to shut up because he doesn't want to bother. And it's all over stupid stuff like if I forget to do something, I'm apparently a dumbass. If I screw something up I'm a dumbass. If I say something he doesn't agree with I'm a dumbass. If I don't do something I'm a dumbass.

I never attack him in any way whatsoever and It's clear to everyone I have nothing against him. BUT apparently he just hates who I am, other people in his life fuck up too but he doesn't explode on them like he does with me. I admit I don't know as much about the world as everyone else in my family and I depend on other people too much and maybe that's why he hates me. In fact I just completely stopped talking around him because I'm afraid if I say the wrong thing he'll start beating the shit out of me (which he says he wants to do a lot). Yea he breaks shit instead of actually talking to me which I tell him to do but he says he gave up trying.

I mean even when I try defending my statements I can't do it very well because I'm a pretty slow thinker. There's a lot more to this story but I don't think you want to read it all. Is it normal to hate someone you live with because you think they're stupid even though they don't hate you back?

Voting Results
23% Normal
Based on 48 votes (11 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 8 )
  • fullmetaljo
    13 years ago

    how long has he gone with out sexing up someone?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    2
    2
  • yellowchalk
    13 years ago

    There could be loads of reasons why he acts that way...

    It could be since he's older, he feels like he needs to exert his power and dominance over you to keep you in check.
    Or, since he's older, he thinks you're still an immature little kid rather than a young adult, and treats you as such.

    He might be jealous of you or ashamed of himself, and tries to make you feel bad to get a self-esteem boost.

    Misery loves company; he could be particularly miserable and wants you to feel the same so he's not alone.

    It could be a combination of all those things, plus many more.

    You dont seem like you're doing anything to intentionally pester him or anything, so I'm not sure why he has to act so hateful towards you. He probably has his own issues that he really needs to work on and his only way of dealing with them is through hurting you.

    Personally if I was in your situation, I'd ignore him to the best of my ability. Don't try to be friendly with him as he obviously does not want your friendship. Maybe give him the occasional smile and wave, but otherwise keep out of his way, see what happens.

    Oh and just remember that when he's calling you a dumbass, he's really saying it to himself.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • themagicalmuse
    14 years ago

    I don't think the issue is with you even though you seem to take the brunt of his emotions.

    I think your brother has his own issues and he vents using you to feel a little better about him and what ever is making him so angry.

    If you try and remember that what ever he is dealing with is his issue and not you then don't worry about how he feels about you.

    I am certain that once he finally deals with what ever is plaguing him the times with you will get better.

    Don't try so hard just let him be and do your own thing and when he is ready, he will be back and maybe with a little time he will be better then ever.

    Every person has worth and value and do ever let anyone take that away from you EVER. You are unique and lovely just as you are.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • peterrabbyt2
    10 years ago

    Don't bother with the fucking prick!

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • [email protected]
    11 years ago

    Just stay out of his way if you can.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Wh0Ar3YoU
    11 years ago

    Come with me my darling

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Deltoran
    14 years ago

    It is your brother being angry at other things, he's just taking it out on you because you've always been there

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • notHere
    14 years ago

    Your brother should not physically touch you. I'm sorry you have this problem.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0