Forcing yourself to enjoy sex, is like forcing yourself to become a professional bull rider. If you don't like it now, don't think going back to it will make anything better.
You sound incredibly young, so just heed my advice.
Sex is not for everyone. That's just a fact. Some people are asexual, some pansexual, etc. You may be asexual, or you may be at a place in your life where you are not ready for sex. And that's fine. But don't force it.
What you can do, however, if you enjoy self-stimulation is to masturbate and find out what you enjoy in terms of fantasies, spots, toys, etc. If you find none of them enjoyable, and still find this odd please go to a doctor. They will be able to examine and explain things in a way that I may not be doing correctly.
But in the case that you do enjoy masturbation, perhaps you can (if he respects you, and your limits that is) let him know what you like and that you two should take things slow. Instead of penetration, he should learn how to use other techniques that will make you more comfortable. And then, whenever YOU feel ready, perhaps then you two can try penetrative sex.
Is it normal to hate sex
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Forcing yourself to enjoy sex, is like forcing yourself to become a professional bull rider. If you don't like it now, don't think going back to it will make anything better.
You sound incredibly young, so just heed my advice.
Sex is not for everyone. That's just a fact. Some people are asexual, some pansexual, etc. You may be asexual, or you may be at a place in your life where you are not ready for sex. And that's fine. But don't force it.
What you can do, however, if you enjoy self-stimulation is to masturbate and find out what you enjoy in terms of fantasies, spots, toys, etc. If you find none of them enjoyable, and still find this odd please go to a doctor. They will be able to examine and explain things in a way that I may not be doing correctly.
But in the case that you do enjoy masturbation, perhaps you can (if he respects you, and your limits that is) let him know what you like and that you two should take things slow. Instead of penetration, he should learn how to use other techniques that will make you more comfortable. And then, whenever YOU feel ready, perhaps then you two can try penetrative sex.
God I hope this makes sense. Good luck!