Some people do. I *occasionally* go through periods of self-loathing. But, even though I don't feel that way often, I still think it's enough to understand how you might feel and I am sorry you feel that way about yourself. Here's a quote from an interesting article which might apply to you:
"Maybe you do believe your partner values you, but just that you don't feel worthy of it. You feel that you know yourself much better than your partner does, and that it's "only a matter of time" before he or she discovers "the truth" about you. (If you do think like this, ask yourself: what gave your partner the idea that you were so fantastic to begin with? Did you just "appear" to be kind, charming, smart and attractive, or could some of that actually be true? Hmm...) You don't have to believe you're worthy, but you have to trust that your partner thinks you are, and that he or she can make the best choices for him- or herself. As I've discussed before, your care for your partner—wanting to "save" him or her from what you see as the burden of being with you—conflicts with the respect that you owe to him or her to make the right decision, even if you think that decision is misguided."
Here's the link to the entire article:
<a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/maybe-its-just-me/201110/self-loathing-and-relationships-believe-in-others-who-believe-in-you" rel="nofollow">http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/maybe-its-j...</a>
Me too, it's such a good article. I especially like this sentence:
"You don't have to believe you're worthy, but you have to trust that your partner thinks you are, and that he or she can make the best choices for him or herself."
Thanks I really appreciate this comment. Im uploading this comment from my phone so I will have to look at that article later. However, that quote pretty much applies to me.
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Some people do. I *occasionally* go through periods of self-loathing. But, even though I don't feel that way often, I still think it's enough to understand how you might feel and I am sorry you feel that way about yourself. Here's a quote from an interesting article which might apply to you:
"Maybe you do believe your partner values you, but just that you don't feel worthy of it. You feel that you know yourself much better than your partner does, and that it's "only a matter of time" before he or she discovers "the truth" about you. (If you do think like this, ask yourself: what gave your partner the idea that you were so fantastic to begin with? Did you just "appear" to be kind, charming, smart and attractive, or could some of that actually be true? Hmm...) You don't have to believe you're worthy, but you have to trust that your partner thinks you are, and that he or she can make the best choices for him- or herself. As I've discussed before, your care for your partner—wanting to "save" him or her from what you see as the burden of being with you—conflicts with the respect that you owe to him or her to make the right decision, even if you think that decision is misguided."
Here's the link to the entire article:
<a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/maybe-its-just-me/201110/self-loathing-and-relationships-believe-in-others-who-believe-in-you" rel="nofollow">http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/maybe-its-j...</a>
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Wow, I really like that.
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Me too, it's such a good article. I especially like this sentence:
"You don't have to believe you're worthy, but you have to trust that your partner thinks you are, and that he or she can make the best choices for him or herself."
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I believe that is true, even though I've not had much experience there.
Thanks I really appreciate this comment. Im uploading this comment from my phone so I will have to look at that article later. However, that quote pretty much applies to me.
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Oooh, I'm glad you like it. (:
It's a great article.