Is it normal to hate my mother-in-law?

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This is what bothers me about her.

-She doesn't like my religion. She's a Christian and she trys to convert me telling me I will be a sinner if I don't convert soon.
-She hates the Beatles, Queen, Jimi Hendrix, Elvis and all the famous bands, but she LOVES her christian music and sees them live all the time and they sound like cr*p.
-She always wears low cut shirts that expose more than half of her boobs resulting in massive cleavage and she's obese so it doesn't look good and she's nearly 50 years old.
-She wears bows in her hair. I kid you not. Her daughter and sons have tried to make her stop, but she keeps wearing bows in her hair. Like she ties her pony tail in a bow and lets the bow hang down.
-She dyes her hair half black only and lets the other half remain gray.
-She hates Red Lobster but LOVES Burger King.
-She hates bagels with butter. SHE ONLY PUTS CHEESE ON THEM.
-She ran over her dog 3-4 years back, killing it and only felt down for that one day. They had 8 dogs at the time and that was the mother dog who was nearly 11 years old and blind in one eye, but still.
-She doesn't do dishes. She MAKES her kids do them for her.
-She doesn't work right now.
-She complains that I am not religious enough.
-She buys me christian cds for my birthday and christmas and it's REALLY bad christian music not decent at all. Not making fun of christian music ONLY THE ONES SHE PICKS OUT.
-I wear skulls on my shirts sometimes. Like I had a mini bow on my shirt with a purple skull in the middle of the bow the size of maybe my thumb and she freaked out on me asking me why I like evil things.
-She hates horror films and insults my taste in movies saying I'm weird and I should watch more romance and comedies.
-All her fav movies are bombs.
-She doesn't like when I wear black shirts. She has told me numerous times, "you should wear a happier color like pink. you don't need to wear black, you're not depressed."
- I'm 15 pounds overweight so I'm not completely comfortable wearing a bright color but i dont wear black ALL THE TIME..i have a lot of blue shirts and yellow shirts.. so wtf.
-When we go on a trip with her in the car she makes us put in the christian cds and we listen to the same 10 songs over and over again until we reach our destination and its really bad singing and lyrics. its like "god is nice. god is love. god is happiness above. love him good. love him great for he did create. lalala" its so gay..
-I bought my husband a new shirt and it had a skull on the logo but it was INSIDE THE SHIRT and it was just a plain black shirt with stripes and she's like "he can't wear that. i dont know why you bought that. you can see the skull a little through the back."

so i said "no offense, but skulls are what we are. we are skeletons. there is nothing wrong with embracing what we are made of-bones."

after that, she FREAKED! she said she suspects me to be a satan lover. OMG help.

WHAT DO I DO

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  • Merkai
    12 years ago | pl

    Seems natural to hate someone like that
    at least to me, but I'm not exactly a shining example of humanity and whatnot
    but here's what I think anyway
    being a free country and all.

    everybody hates their in-laws
    its like the grounding trait of hundreds of sitcoms and reality Tv shows featuring
    family the world over
    there's probably a reason for that.

    I can see you have good tastes for the classics
    care about animals and have a sense of self dignity that's somehow diminished ever since
    the advent of barbie
    and I applaud you for that
    but I can't agree with you on some parts

    you have to consider that somewhere, in this
    invasive tart of a woman with an inflated sense of self entitlement
    something isn't quite clicking
    she's not a crazy bitch, She's Broken.
    being the way she is
    no matter how much of a bitch that makes her
    is simply her way of staying sane in a world
    that didn't make sense, when everything that
    was supposed to be Ok, wasn't.

    to me,
    she sounds scared, blocking out everything
    that threatens her fragile state of mind
    and surrounding herself with her own perfect world, her own music, her own cloths, her own symbols, her own little reality
    where things make sense, her own little circle

    in fact, she seems so scared she won't even
    venture further for more of the things she likes, like those same ten songs she plays over
    and over, why do you think she hasn't looked
    for more?

    think about it like this, when you open the door and see a cyclone running down the street
    you don't go get the mail
    no, you get the fuck back indoors and into the
    fetal position, in some nice cosy corner
    as far away from the outside as you can
    That's what she's doing!
    only, her hurricane never went away
    at least that's what she thinks
    as far as she's concerned there is still the
    mother of all storms raging on her doorstep
    and she doesn't want to open the door.

    your an anomaly in that reality
    you came in from the outside and invaded her
    sense of peace, at least in her mind that is
    her mind can't get over how the hell you
    managed to walk through a cyclone to get in,
    so you obviously must have been in league with
    what's out there

    to her your a black spot in her
    reality of a pink circle
    she can't force you out, so she's trying to
    make you pink as well, so she doesn't have
    to be afraid anymore

    I know how you could deal with her
    walking away from her, and biting should she try to follow
    what I don't know, is how you 'should' deal with her, whether my advice was good enough or if it was too late to mean anything
    I don't know these things
    only you know how things 'Should' happen

    but just remember
    nobody can stop you loving someone
    and
    nobody can stop you hating them either.

    Peace.

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  • karma_is_bs
    13 years ago | pl

    first of all, it's none of her business what the fuck you choose to wear or listen to!Second, does she live in a trailor??she sounds like typical white trash.My advice is move out of town so she can't be in your business as much. Does your husband stick up for you at all??

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  • zchristian
    13 years ago | pl

    im also a christian but im only a little and i still like rock skulls and all that stuff many over christians make life a hell and why god is the god of love not the god of make alls life a hell so you can join me in heaven

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  • normaliamnot
    13 years ago | pl

    its a package deal, she comes with her husband. unless you want to tell him to cut her out of his life your probably going to have to put up with that stuff for a LONG time so my advice is get used to it or get a divorce...

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    • littlelulu1999
      11 years ago | pl

      I think that if you are living within a certain close distance to your in-laws, it become a 'package deal' because you have to deal with them regularly. If you live a considerable distance from your in-laws you'd only have to put up with this crap maybe 2-3 times a year for holidays, which are easy to walk away/escape from if the in-laws are crazy (which in your case they are). That being said, you need to set boundaries and create distance from your mother-in-law. Significantly minimize the time you see her. When you have negative people in your life YOU CUT THEM OUT--ZERO CONTACT! You are a married couple and therefore have your own family unit. You don't need to see her if you don't want to even if you live a few blocks away. Consider moving away to create distance if you have to...seriously. Additionally, your husband is supposed to protect you, defend you, and put you first. You need to make it clear to him that he needs to open his mouth and politely correct his mother when she infringes on your lives/your beliefs, insults you, etc. If your hubby will not defend protect your marriage and family unit and lets his mother walk all over you guys, then damn....it will continue until you explode one day and tell her off for good!

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