I'd say confront him.
Is he normal? Yeah, probably.
I had a cantankerous grouchy old great grandmother whose favorite pastime was b*tching 90-to-nothing about everything. She was demanding, rude, abusive denigrating and condescending about everything. When she was a hypocrite we pointed it out. I got to a point where I had reached my fill and would turn around and shoot it all right back at her. Only once did she dare say I was fat. She was 300 lbs (How the world anyone could live to be 95 and be over 300 lbs according to most modern doctors it is a miracle.) She made the mistake of calling me fat and I blew my top at her. I think I said "Try checking the mirror you hateful old fat cow!" It shut her up. She never said it again. But I didn't have to live with her that much.
If you have to live with your grandfather, then you will have hell dealing with him if you stand up to him. My great grandmother was secretly physically abusive. It did not come up until one time my mother reprimanded her about something and she raised her walker over her head to strike my mother, only putting it down an instant after I rounded the corner in the hallway and caught her. Your grandmother is probably abused and quietly suffers it.
If he gets on your case you might say "Oh will you just be quiet you old codger?" It might shut him up; it might not.
You don't have to put up with that crap and niether does your grandmother.
But I think it does happen. It is even spoofed in movies (Aunt Edna from National Lampoon's Summer Vacation.)
It is okay to hate being around him, but don't hate him, as hard as it is, and I understand, don't hate him. Love your grandmother.
Is it normal to hate my grandpa?
← View full post
I'd say confront him.
Is he normal? Yeah, probably.
I had a cantankerous grouchy old great grandmother whose favorite pastime was b*tching 90-to-nothing about everything. She was demanding, rude, abusive denigrating and condescending about everything. When she was a hypocrite we pointed it out. I got to a point where I had reached my fill and would turn around and shoot it all right back at her. Only once did she dare say I was fat. She was 300 lbs (How the world anyone could live to be 95 and be over 300 lbs according to most modern doctors it is a miracle.) She made the mistake of calling me fat and I blew my top at her. I think I said "Try checking the mirror you hateful old fat cow!" It shut her up. She never said it again. But I didn't have to live with her that much.
If you have to live with your grandfather, then you will have hell dealing with him if you stand up to him. My great grandmother was secretly physically abusive. It did not come up until one time my mother reprimanded her about something and she raised her walker over her head to strike my mother, only putting it down an instant after I rounded the corner in the hallway and caught her. Your grandmother is probably abused and quietly suffers it.
If he gets on your case you might say "Oh will you just be quiet you old codger?" It might shut him up; it might not.
You don't have to put up with that crap and niether does your grandmother.
But I think it does happen. It is even spoofed in movies (Aunt Edna from National Lampoon's Summer Vacation.)
It is okay to hate being around him, but don't hate him, as hard as it is, and I understand, don't hate him. Love your grandmother.