Cookie Monster, you asked for other people's opinions on a website. What did you expect? Your grandmother may indeed be annoying (and maybe only to you) but your passionate hate seems like overkill. When you are a grown-up I believe you will look back on this time and wish you had had more patience and respect. That comes with maturity. I imagine you're putting out just as much negative energy as she is and you are both feeding off of each other. In other words, you think she is disrespectful of you, and she thinks you are disrespectful of her. Could you have a talk with her? Say, "Things haven't been so easy for us; could we start over?" And then make a good effort to do just that. Stop being so sensitive to things she can't control. And if she insults you, let her know your feelings are hurt. But I really think if you are more caring and understanding towards her she might soften up. I'm sure it's not easy to be elderly with your only choice being to move in with your child, especially if your granddaughter is unwelcoming. And you may have no idea if there is stress between your parents and grandmother, and you are exacerbating it. Who knows.... Just brainstorming. Hope you and your grandmother are able to work these things out. Believe it or not, a relationship with her could be very meaningful if you let it.
Is it normal to HATE my grandma so much?!?!?
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Cookie Monster, you asked for other people's opinions on a website. What did you expect? Your grandmother may indeed be annoying (and maybe only to you) but your passionate hate seems like overkill. When you are a grown-up I believe you will look back on this time and wish you had had more patience and respect. That comes with maturity. I imagine you're putting out just as much negative energy as she is and you are both feeding off of each other. In other words, you think she is disrespectful of you, and she thinks you are disrespectful of her. Could you have a talk with her? Say, "Things haven't been so easy for us; could we start over?" And then make a good effort to do just that. Stop being so sensitive to things she can't control. And if she insults you, let her know your feelings are hurt. But I really think if you are more caring and understanding towards her she might soften up. I'm sure it's not easy to be elderly with your only choice being to move in with your child, especially if your granddaughter is unwelcoming. And you may have no idea if there is stress between your parents and grandmother, and you are exacerbating it. Who knows.... Just brainstorming. Hope you and your grandmother are able to work these things out. Believe it or not, a relationship with her could be very meaningful if you let it.