Is it normal to hate my father

I love my dad but sometimes I can't stand him he's really a good guy but he acts like he rules everyone and I don't put up with that he acts like he knows everything and what he says only matters, he wants me to respect him but he has no respect for me or others, he even wants me to go to bed and wake up early but I've already graduated and I'm 20 years old but he still thinks I'm a kid because I'm living in his house, me and him argue and I almost fought with him but I walked away and told him that I was the bigger more mature person and, but if I fight him I won't want to go to jail but to be honest I think I'll beat him in a fight but then again I think always that i shouldn't fight him because he's my dad and I love him, but some times I feel like I hate him, and other times I actually love him

One of the commandments is to love your parents,and respect them! Have you heard the song " hurt" by Christina aguilarqa. It talks about her father and when he died she regretted everything she did.And if your father had a job and worked he seems as if he loves u and is trying to give u a good home to live in! Even though it. I might not seem like it he does!

My dad was the same way but got better over time. It was how he was raised and their job was to be the provider. And it sounds like your dad has done a great job providing you with a nice life. I work with kids who have no dads because they have left for booze women or drugs. Your lucky and you should try and realize that.

I kinda had the same thing. My father would be 86 by now. He died 10 years ago. I didn't get the I love you's. No I am proud of you either. He never hugged me. He worked long hours. It took me as an adult to go to initiate the hugs and telling him I loved him. The last 5 years of his life he learned to hug me. The love you words still were non-existent. But I contributed that to the times that he was raised in. I new he loved me after I started the whole thing. I could see it in his face.

You know what? We only get one chance at this life, so it may be hard but I think you should sit him down and tell him that you appreciate that he worked hard to enable you to have a comfy life, but that you try to please him and it has never worked. Get it out there then it will be up to him if he wants to make the effort.

I agree with others - hate is a strong word for what you have: a poor relationship. But you probably use that word a little loosely to describe that you hate how things are. They could be better, and as you grow up, I bet you'll find common ground. I think yo do need to show a little more respect for what he has done behind the scenes.

You honestly don't know how good you have it. I had an abusive father who beat me cuzz he felt like it. Would go to school with bruises and fat lips. I would always lie to my friends and tell them that I got into a fight with my neighbors, I was too emberrased to tell them the truth. My siblings and mom also got beatings. I hated my dad for many years. My last beatdown was when I was 16!!! Now I'm 33. This past December my dad said he was sorry for everything he did. I forgave him some time ago but I still needed to hear him say "i'm sorry"! Our relationship since then has improved. You need to talk to him before you get older and the hatred gets stronger.

Wow, hate is a pretty strong word for someone who provides such a great life for you. Maybe you should quit being so entitled and appreciate what u have instead of whining. You probably don't even know how good you have it compared to other people. My dad cheated on my mom and is off playing daddy to his new family while treating us like we never exsisted. So show some respect and try being thankful!

I feel the same way man...

I'm sure it makes you feel bad, it's nice to hear encouraging words from our fathers. We want their attention and praise, it makes us FEEL loved. However, in his mind, working hard, providing for his family and as you say, "giving you everything" is probably how he shows his love for you. Some dads unfortunately aren't affectionate. So, as hard as it is, be thankful of all he does and has done for you and definately be thankful you had your mothers support and nurturing. Hang in there! He does love you!

You have to give respect to get it back. All I heard from you was ME ME ME, it's all about me! Ok, so you want some acknowledgement for your hard work, I get it and you deserve that, but give him a break. Maybe you are not aprochable, and he is afraid that you might reject him. It is very easy to point fingers and blame the other person for things. Appreciate what you do have because there are some of us that had an abusive father or no father at all. Give him a try and have a heart to heart talk with him. To me, it is not normal to have hate for reasons that you gave.

It seems as if your more distant with your father because you push him away. You should really get to know him before you decide not to respect him.

It could have something to do with how his dad raised him. It sounds like he's providing a good, and/or comfortable life for your family. Try your best to love him, flaws and all. Maybe in time you'll develope a better relationship.