He's not one to take criticism. I've spoken to him about it occasionally, but he just gets mad.
When he yells at my mom, I do see him sometimes trying to make an argument... but for the most part it's just abusive.
And as for the complaining... yes I do realize he has the right to complain, but you have to understand... he complains about almost EVERYTHING and he almost always redirects the conversation to complaining.
I know he has a good reason to complain, but it's just that he DOESN'T LET THINGS GO. He's even still paranoid that my mom is seeing a boyfriend from before my dad and her met! She has no free time to be having an affair! She is always busy with us kids or college and I see her 90% of the day! And the 10% I don't see her, I know exactly where she is.
Oh and I didn't say he was a saint. I said he was a saint TO ME. To my mom, he is a complete asshole.
He is pretty unaware of everyone else's feelings as he is VERY self-centered. He can't go five minutes without talking about himself, so I doubt he really notices when people don't like him or when they're not interested in what he's saying, let alone notice any "detachment" between us.
I'm not cold or cruel towards him. On the contrary... sometimes we have very nice conversations.... but I just HATE the way he treats my mom. And it makes me SO angry when he does this to her. It's just confusing how to feel because he's so nice to me, but so cruel to my mother.
He has NO right to constantly moan at you all. If I were you and your mom, I'd leave the room and let him argue / moan at his shadow. The 2 of you could go to your room and put on headphones so you don't hear him.
He's looking for an excuse to make your mom seem evil and he's a poor 'victim' coz she's got a bf. I said it before - he's a dick!!
Don't let your mom put her plans off indefinitely, she should get out now! I'd rather be poor any day than live with such an @sshole. He will never value her until she's gone! I must say that, from your post, I'm waiting on him to become violent.
Go on, let him rant on youtube - we haven't heard his rants and nor have his colleagues!
I lived your life, and my mom swore she'd get out - and never did. He's dead now.
Yeah, we talk about her divorcing him all the time.
I'll be going to college in a year, but two of my brothers are still younger. I know one wouldn't mind if they divorced, but the other is a bit sensitive. I think one of the reasons she stays is because of him.
But the good news is she'll be getting a college degree soon so she'll be able to support herself when it all goes down.
Is it normal to hate my dad?
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He's not one to take criticism. I've spoken to him about it occasionally, but he just gets mad.
When he yells at my mom, I do see him sometimes trying to make an argument... but for the most part it's just abusive.
And as for the complaining... yes I do realize he has the right to complain, but you have to understand... he complains about almost EVERYTHING and he almost always redirects the conversation to complaining.
I know he has a good reason to complain, but it's just that he DOESN'T LET THINGS GO. He's even still paranoid that my mom is seeing a boyfriend from before my dad and her met! She has no free time to be having an affair! She is always busy with us kids or college and I see her 90% of the day! And the 10% I don't see her, I know exactly where she is.
Oh and I didn't say he was a saint. I said he was a saint TO ME. To my mom, he is a complete asshole.
He is pretty unaware of everyone else's feelings as he is VERY self-centered. He can't go five minutes without talking about himself, so I doubt he really notices when people don't like him or when they're not interested in what he's saying, let alone notice any "detachment" between us.
I'm not cold or cruel towards him. On the contrary... sometimes we have very nice conversations.... but I just HATE the way he treats my mom. And it makes me SO angry when he does this to her. It's just confusing how to feel because he's so nice to me, but so cruel to my mother.
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He has NO right to constantly moan at you all. If I were you and your mom, I'd leave the room and let him argue / moan at his shadow. The 2 of you could go to your room and put on headphones so you don't hear him.
He's looking for an excuse to make your mom seem evil and he's a poor 'victim' coz she's got a bf. I said it before - he's a dick!!
Don't let your mom put her plans off indefinitely, she should get out now! I'd rather be poor any day than live with such an @sshole. He will never value her until she's gone! I must say that, from your post, I'm waiting on him to become violent.
Go on, let him rant on youtube - we haven't heard his rants and nor have his colleagues!
I lived your life, and my mom swore she'd get out - and never did. He's dead now.
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Yeah, we talk about her divorcing him all the time.
I'll be going to college in a year, but two of my brothers are still younger. I know one wouldn't mind if they divorced, but the other is a bit sensitive. I think one of the reasons she stays is because of him.
But the good news is she'll be getting a college degree soon so she'll be able to support herself when it all goes down.
I want to get a good job to so I can help her.