Is it normal to hate my college roommate because of her boyfriend?

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I currently live in a dorm room with my best friend since 6th grade and she has a boyfriend that goes to another school. For the first semester in college, her boyfriend started to come down and stay in our dorm room for 3 days. He is currently here for five days which is killing me. There is absolutely no privacy in our room and she always claims that she is proud that she "uses people." I can't help but feel that she is doing the same thing to me because we are best friends. I don't know if i should confront her? If I do, i know she'll get mad and everything will be awkward because she is always emotional and hates me or loves me every day. I always wake up and have to guess how she feels about me. She once said "this room is half mine." Which technically makes sense, but this is not a fair statement because its just a dorm room and 3 people in one dorm room is horrible. Her boyfriend is also obnoxious and they always whisper at night for hours while i sleep. He also controls the television, which I bought. I'm going absolutely insane.

Sorry about this long story, I just feel like crying because this is ridiculous. When i come back in the room and they come back in the room and see me, they make it seem like i am a burden even though its my room.

She doesn't even ask permission for him to come here. She just makes sure she passes it off in a conversation that i would overhear and assume.

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  • t4ggs
    13 years ago

    If I were u i would take my clothes off in front of her bf jus to annoy her.

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  • NopeNotNormal
    13 years ago

    She's taking full advantage of the fact that you've been friends for so long. Is he even supposed to be there?? Maybe take it up with your RA?

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  • stillwondering
    13 years ago

    Masturbate when they're in the room. It's guaranteed to work!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    STOP BEING JEALOUS YOU PRIGG

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  • OnlyTheTruth
    12 years ago

    && why cant they go to his place?? I would just go on living like he isnt there. Agreeing with the person who said undress and dress in the room, like you normally would. Your roommate would def have problems with that- which would give you an opportunity to tell her how you really feel about him being there so much.

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  • sir.kirk
    13 years ago

    If you were smart you would have found a copy of Sheldon Coopers room mate agreement and got that selfish bitch of a "friend" to sign it.

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  • IHaveIssuesWithMyMother
    13 years ago

    I'd hate that!

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  • nanimeow
    13 years ago

    I had a similar situation with one of my friends. She doesn't use people but we lived great together when it was just her and me. Then her bf practically moved in and we just didn't get along anymore. Eventually she moved out with him and we got along fine then. Me being in the small apartment with a couple was not a good idea.
    My advice, move out to save the friendship. A dorm room is a terrible place for a couple and an individual. Too small.

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  • _justwondering_
    13 years ago

    Talk to tour RA- I'm sure they have dorm policies regarding overnight guests. Maybe you, your roomate and the RA can have a sit down? Good luck- roomate issues are never fun, and rooming with a good friend can be a mistake, it was for me.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    Well she wants a place where her and her boyfriend can meet, and you need personal space. Both have a valid reason so i suggest you 2 to change rooms.

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  • tomina
    13 years ago

    You need to tell her straight youre feelings about the situation or you bring some friends over aswell and let her feel the Same

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