I never imagined it could be genetic but my whole family is kinda standoffish about contact -- now that I think about it I don't think I've ever seen anyone kiss anyone in my family kiss a partner and its kind of interesting to think about nature vs. nurture.
But now I am even more worried -- never been worried about the taste but I imagine it would be awful. I know he must be bummed about it too, and I feel awful I can't bring myself to lock lips. I do pecks on foreheads, cheeks, all that in an attempt to be intimate.
Not seeing anyone kiss another is one thing (some people may not like to kiss in front of others) and sure there's the fact that your mom dislikes it, but I -still- wouldn't claim it's 100% in your nature to dislike kissing. You're only 20, you'll like it in due time, I bet you 50 blueberry muffins! But don't go on and like, force yourself to kiss an unappealing mouth
It may very well be as simple as the "real issue" that you described in your original post. A few first bad kisses can totally repulse a person from the idea of kissing. I also just realized... have you talked to him about his oral hygiene? Or have you told him just that you disliked kissing?
I have discussed both of these issues with him, though I have talked about not liking kissing much less because I am just realizing it may be a bigger issue.
His hygiene I have talked to him about several times and he might improve for a day, might go brush his teeth then, but either doesn't care or isn't able to. I just can't get over the original sight of his mouth. It was disgusting and I am worried I will never be able to get over it even though he's switched a few meds and its a bit better overall.
I still find myself staring at his mouth in horror most times. He's a pretty oblivious guy when it comes to hygiene in general, blames it on a disorder, but I figured if he loved me or really wanted me to try kissing he would make an actual effort. And yes, I have said this to him. He claims he's changed, but still ugh. I mean one night he fell asleep with fucking chocolate in his mouth and woke up with it all over his teeth. Like, A LOT of chocolate.
IIN to hate kissing?
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I never imagined it could be genetic but my whole family is kinda standoffish about contact -- now that I think about it I don't think I've ever seen anyone kiss anyone in my family kiss a partner and its kind of interesting to think about nature vs. nurture.
But now I am even more worried -- never been worried about the taste but I imagine it would be awful. I know he must be bummed about it too, and I feel awful I can't bring myself to lock lips. I do pecks on foreheads, cheeks, all that in an attempt to be intimate.
I promise to try it though, at least once!
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Not seeing anyone kiss another is one thing (some people may not like to kiss in front of others) and sure there's the fact that your mom dislikes it, but I -still- wouldn't claim it's 100% in your nature to dislike kissing. You're only 20, you'll like it in due time, I bet you 50 blueberry muffins! But don't go on and like, force yourself to kiss an unappealing mouth
It may very well be as simple as the "real issue" that you described in your original post. A few first bad kisses can totally repulse a person from the idea of kissing. I also just realized... have you talked to him about his oral hygiene? Or have you told him just that you disliked kissing?
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I have discussed both of these issues with him, though I have talked about not liking kissing much less because I am just realizing it may be a bigger issue.
His hygiene I have talked to him about several times and he might improve for a day, might go brush his teeth then, but either doesn't care or isn't able to. I just can't get over the original sight of his mouth. It was disgusting and I am worried I will never be able to get over it even though he's switched a few meds and its a bit better overall.
I still find myself staring at his mouth in horror most times. He's a pretty oblivious guy when it comes to hygiene in general, blames it on a disorder, but I figured if he loved me or really wanted me to try kissing he would make an actual effort. And yes, I have said this to him. He claims he's changed, but still ugh. I mean one night he fell asleep with fucking chocolate in his mouth and woke up with it all over his teeth. Like, A LOT of chocolate.
End of rant.