Hey, thank you for honest words. Your post made sense to me and I get that, now. Like I said, I cannot hate her, or blame her. But that does not mean that I want to stick around whilst she sleeps with others and gets with other guys.
The problem, or, the issue that I had was the fact that she had time to "get over the situation" to remove all of the feelings that she ever had for me whilst still leading me on thinking everything was fine when clearly it wasn't (in her head). I didn't have that time, and, she just randomly came out with it and expected me to be fine with it. In her words: "It sounds selfish but I'm glad I've told you so that we can just have sex now".
I don't find myself having commitment issues, I was ready to commit to her and didn't have a problem. it didn't scare me to think of being in a relationship with her, quite the opposite.
Again, I do not blame her for what she did. She had a choice to make that decision but she still went through with making us act like a couple (holding hands, kissing, sex etc..) you should/cannot do that and expect to have no feelings. It's just stupid, right?
I set myself up for this situation, I was honest with her from the beginning about not being good enough and not to develop feeling, and, it wasn't due to the fact that I had low self-esteem although, that was probably one of the reasons it was due to the fact that I didn't want a relationship and I had already heard about her reputation and therefore thought that she could never be girlfriend material. It's like she put on this massive act just because she was lonely and bored and when she found someone else, she just got rid of me because that is what she does.
Is it normal to hate her for what she has done to me?
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Hey, thank you for honest words. Your post made sense to me and I get that, now. Like I said, I cannot hate her, or blame her. But that does not mean that I want to stick around whilst she sleeps with others and gets with other guys.
The problem, or, the issue that I had was the fact that she had time to "get over the situation" to remove all of the feelings that she ever had for me whilst still leading me on thinking everything was fine when clearly it wasn't (in her head). I didn't have that time, and, she just randomly came out with it and expected me to be fine with it. In her words: "It sounds selfish but I'm glad I've told you so that we can just have sex now".
I don't find myself having commitment issues, I was ready to commit to her and didn't have a problem. it didn't scare me to think of being in a relationship with her, quite the opposite.
Again, I do not blame her for what she did. She had a choice to make that decision but she still went through with making us act like a couple (holding hands, kissing, sex etc..) you should/cannot do that and expect to have no feelings. It's just stupid, right?
I set myself up for this situation, I was honest with her from the beginning about not being good enough and not to develop feeling, and, it wasn't due to the fact that I had low self-esteem although, that was probably one of the reasons it was due to the fact that I didn't want a relationship and I had already heard about her reputation and therefore thought that she could never be girlfriend material. It's like she put on this massive act just because she was lonely and bored and when she found someone else, she just got rid of me because that is what she does.