They could just be a vindictive, hate-filled and generally nasty person. They might have a mental illness or be incapable of understanding how their words and actions are perceived by you.
There is, however, something called the Halo Effect. If we have a positive view of someone, then we tend to perceive everything they do in the most positive way possible. If we think someone is horrible, we tend to interpret everything they do and say in the most negative way possible.
One thing is certain: you can't change what the person you're complaining about does and says. Assuming it's not possible for you to just not live with the person, the only thing that's in your power to change is how you respond. If you get annoyed at them, that's something you've chosen to do. They can't make you love them and they can't make you hate them; those are choices you to make. They can't make you angry by criticizing you; you have to choose to treat their opinion as being very important to you. If they do something you think is stupid or inconsiderate, you choose if you get angry about that, or if you just shrug it off as another example of what they're like.
Is it normal to hate EVERYTHING that a certain person does 🙄
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They could just be a vindictive, hate-filled and generally nasty person. They might have a mental illness or be incapable of understanding how their words and actions are perceived by you.
There is, however, something called the Halo Effect. If we have a positive view of someone, then we tend to perceive everything they do in the most positive way possible. If we think someone is horrible, we tend to interpret everything they do and say in the most negative way possible.
One thing is certain: you can't change what the person you're complaining about does and says. Assuming it's not possible for you to just not live with the person, the only thing that's in your power to change is how you respond. If you get annoyed at them, that's something you've chosen to do. They can't make you love them and they can't make you hate them; those are choices you to make. They can't make you angry by criticizing you; you have to choose to treat their opinion as being very important to you. If they do something you think is stupid or inconsiderate, you choose if you get angry about that, or if you just shrug it off as another example of what they're like.