Is it normal to hate bestfriend who has a drastic change in identity?

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My bestfriend, how i remembered, was a wonderful person on the whole. She usually tries to be nice to people, was funny, sweet & charming, She was optimistic and determined and always tried to display manners. She had moral values always stressed it out vocally. Above all, she was always concerned with other people's thoughts OF her.

Yes, she had flaws but her flaws never bothered me enough to actually make myself hate her.

She went away for some time to study. Within that period, bad things happened and she came back a whole different person. This person was not wonderful and was not easy to be around with. She constantly curses everybody and everything about how miserable her life is. She confessed how she hated her previous self (former identity) and at that point she seemed like the fakest person. She's got a nasty attitude towards everything, overly judgemental, hypocritical, selfish, pessimistic, direspectful towards other people's decisions, voices out her opinions against her own faith & lost almost all of her moral values.

Initially, i knew in my heart, she had this nasty side in her, but she always kept it at bay. It was only after she came back that she acted this way. Her bad habits were intensified 10x! honestly, i find her unbearable to be with.

I simply thought it was normal for her to be experiencing a low because of the bad things that happened to her. But as months went by, it seems like she hasn't changed for the better at all.

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  • underwhere
    13 years ago

    There is a reason that she changed. You indicated that some bad things happened to her. As a friend, you have two choices: stand by your friends even if they are having a tough time, or decide that your friends are dragging you down with them to the point that you are changing into somebody you don't wish to become. I generally choose the former, but there are times I have not found it possible to stand by friends if things have changed so much and they are not willing or able to be open with me about it. In that case, sorry to say, but it might be best to cut your losses and move on.

    "Friends forever" is the ideal, and certainly something I try to live my life by, but it is not always possible.

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  • jelly1
    13 years ago

    She's a changed person. Sorry, but there's almost no chance that she'll go back to the way she used to be.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    hmmmm sounds like shes turned into a boring type of person my friend has changed tooo he was exacly like me he was different we done majorly bad things that if caught we would be put away for some time and we havent been caught and we always done it with a smile on our faces we were never mean to anyone only when they were to us but i think he is changing into some one filled up with the love juice he is more of a lover now than a uniqe person i mean love is a good thing but not when its your only emotion but its only started happening since i moved away from him (not by choice) and tbh iv changed too but not in the lovey dovy way i think when were together we are the best type of people very different to the rest and very skilled in what we do people there think there cool for getting caught speeding thats there all time bad but ours is burning down offices and not getting caught atall ;D

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  • justaredsheep
    12 years ago

    People with that kind of attitude are only bad news. Don't let her bring you down, it's time to hang out with some other people.

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  • Hooviva
    13 years ago

    Then optimism is full of getting rid of that old-fashioned no good pessimistic badness. Hypocrisy is a lie. Judgemental, well the saying goes: "a judge judges justice, and judges what must be judged", it's OK to judge a character but it's not OK for judgement when it meddles in other people's affairs. I myself used to be pessimistic, now I'm in the light of good taste.

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  • lalaforthehaha
    13 years ago

    i think everybody has friends who changes and it is normal to not always like who they change into. I think the best thing for you to do is begin to spend less time with her because if you really don't like her anymore there is no longer any point to keep the friendship going

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    • geen555
      13 years ago

      Thanks for your input lalaforthehaha, i guess it's just a shame we can't be good friends anymore.

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