Is it normal to go months or years without sex?

I lost my virginity when I was 19 to a girl I was dating at the time. She broke up with me about two weeks later, but that was the only time we had sex. Almost two years later, when I was a week away from my 21st b-day, I met a girl and was romantically involved with her for a couple months. (We were never 'officially' dating, though.) After that, we were on-and-off 'friends with benefits' for a few months.
Now I'm 22 and it's been about 7 months since the last time I had sex. It's been three years since I've had a girlfriend. All of my friends are either in committed relationships or are the kind of people who "get around" (to put it nicely). This makes me feel pretty lonely most of the time... Is my intermittent and infrequent sex life normal?

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77% Normal
Based on 347 votes (267 yes)
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Comments ( 22 )
  • lil

    This is me too!! I lost my virginity to my first love at 17, but my group of friends had bets on who could lose their virginity first when we were 14, after that they had competitions to see who could sleep with the most, they're all in the 50's now and I think it's disgusting, they had to lie to their current partners about their number, I've only been with 5 men and love sex! and I'm 26, but I'm not ashamed of my small number, to me you can still be naughty but with the right person, it's so much better, they all have 2 or 3 kids, plus abortions! All with different dads, no lie! They always said I was prissy and old fashioned to much but life is great! I live it properly and NOT by notches on my bedpost!!! You're normal :-)

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  • I haven't had sex in five years... I'm not that bothered though, I get by without it rather well lol.

    So it's normal.

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  • alv1592

    yeah, i agree with everyone else. it doesn't matter how often you have sex. just do it with someone you care about.

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  • If it's normal for you it's normal for you. You could meet someone tomorrow and then you're having sex again. That's how it works.

    Frequency of sexual activity depends on your relationships and a lot of other things. I have a couple girl friends that have sex only a couple of times a year and they think that fine. I have sex a few times a week. I'd like to have more.

    Just matters if you're happy with it.

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    • dappled

      Great answer!

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      • you're such a sweetie! You make me blush!

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        • monkeysee68

          I co-agree 'Great answer!', couldn't have put it better.

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  • dappled

    Ten months, and counting. It's by choice but it hasn't been especially difficult. Although it's becoming more difficult now the weather is getting warmer.

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  • try this: say, "I haven't had sex in WEEKS" Emphasize on the word weeks, it sounds funny as hell!

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  • yes.. it doesnt matter how often. or anything. only do it with someone who you truly love and trust.

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  • ToddStellar

    I haven't had sex since my ex fiancee...That was three years ago. She straight f*cked me up. I now pray to god that I die alone.
    It is normal to go without sex for long periods of time after a failed relationship.

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  • MeOhMyra

    I'm 23 and I haven't even had a girlfriend, let alone sex, and I'm perfectly happy.

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  • spidercrowblaze18762

    Ther is not even 1 day for me that ive not had sex with my girl.

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  • BurnaTwist

    i love sex its my favorite sport i had to go 6 weeks after my wife had our baby girl and i thought i was gonna die, if your not bothered by it dont sweat it, when you want it youll go get it, i want it everyday all day long unfortunately it doesnt happen everyday tho :(

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  • YBNormal

    *Sigh.* For me, it hasn't always been a choice. :(

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  • SweetSherry

    Its normal after a really bad break up I went 9 months without sex its was my choice though I'm not the kind of girl to have one night stands or friends with benefits thing I have to been in a committed relationship I took the time to heal and grow and learn from my mistakes then when I was ready I met my current boyfriend who I've been with now for three years so just hang in there

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  • josh69tx

    normal

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  • Ursometal

    For me it seems the more I get the more I want. But after a break up I have gone for over a year. Sounds normal to me.

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  • hokerydokerydo

    no, it's not normal, us men are ALL knee deep in it, all of the time, forever. Oh no... shit, sorry, no, I hardly get any.

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  • Capricious

    use ur hand or ask sum guy to do it for u !

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  • ihatemymother

    do u masterbait

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  • licksalot

    I have had a very long and loving life with women.
    The reason why, is that I am not an idiot when I have to communicate with them. I have had a couple of lady's that have the same horniness as I do, so when required we would hook up, sort of speak. So when a women comes around that is my everything I'm not so pressured to land the deal right there on the spot, of course I stop seeing the "friend with benefits" as she fully understand my circumstances as I do hers.Having sex is AWESOME, remember you loose what you don't use.

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