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Basically i never got over my ex, who is still my best friend. I'm not interested in anyone else. Tried to have sex with a couple ppl over the years but never can because they're not the one i want. I feel physically lonely, but I'm not the type of person to just sleep with whoever... Is it normal to keep wanting what(who) you can't have so long/to go 4 years without sex?
The only solution to this problem is distance. Get away from your ex. Make new friends and do not see your ex again until you have found yourself someone new. And don't do it in the hope that your ex will get jealous and come back to you.
Forget her/him. You are NOT punishing her/him, you are only hurting yourself. Time to grow up, at least if you'd like to have a healthy sex life.
Let me tell you, distance really is the only way to go. I completely understand the feeling of someone who you cared about and still want after that but have you had someone break up with you, remain friends for a while, then later have the guts to tell you all about some new guy and how great he is? There is nothing more that my friend could have done to rudely wake me up. I was angry but more angry at myself for being the type of person to make her feel that such a thing was okay.
Honestly, you'll probably never forget just like I won't but I think the best thing to do is accept that fact yet still move forward. It is INSANELY easy to remain in the state of old affection and woe is me but remember, your ex has more than likely moved on and isn't suffering like this so do you really want an ex to have such power over you? You'll be very happy again if you can do this, I know you can~
I'm a single father. I raised my son alone since the first day. I had so much work with my regular jog, at home doing everything together with all a baby needs that I might have been nearly 4 years as well without being with a women.
I might have felt lonely sometimes. Now he is 16 and I'm still very young to enjoy life.
I don't think that when it comes to sex you can apply your narrowness to my post!. As a guy, I wanted to make sure I have a valid male perspective on going without sex for four years, I also wanted to explore if the person was not considering masturbation "sex"; and lastly, as a guy I would have suggested autofellatio as a solution, if I was talking to a guy, because it doesn't apply to girls. See, U were so eager to judge, you forgot to look at what you are carrying between your legs!....
I am going through this right now. My wife and I are fairly young (29 and 30) and we split up over 3 years ago and I have not been with anyone since. Before her, I cannot remember a time I Wasn't with a girl. I am still really held up on her but the fact that we still see each other twice a week doesn't help. (We have a 3 1/2 year old daughter together) She has not been with anyone else since me either. I know she still loves me and I do her as well as the attraction still there. We ended up having sex about 6 months ago. With any girl in the past that I was crazy about, splitting up and finding someone else can be the best and fastest way to get over someone. Seeing that person regularly after the fact can make you hold on forever. It might be best for you to cut ties with your ex and try and move on. Maybe you just need to find the right woman. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. A lot of absence and finding someone else makes the heart not give a shit.
Whoa!
That’s a really grouchy comment. Did you have a bad day then decide to take it out on the OP?
The poor guy said he hasn't had sex in all that time because he's still heartsick over his ex. He wasn't bragging. How would you like it if you shared something intimate about yourself and someone bitched you out and called you a twit?
I really don't understand why people make such an issue over this. IIN I have not had sex yet and I am 20, is it normal I have not had sex and I am 19, is it normal I have not had a Girlfriend yet and I am 18 its really bumming me out. Why is having sex and dating a necessity by age 18? That sounds stupid. People care about the stupidest things. No one is required to have sex by a certain age or at all for that matter. How many times does this crap need to be asked?