Is it normal to give up your love for your bestfriend his happiness?

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I met him one fall morning at school and ever since I fell in love. We became friends, then close friends and I admit I got the guts to tell him that I love him. He replied to me that our friendship is very important to him but "dating seems like it would mess up everything". I still love him and am still his close friend, but I think even though it hurts me I know that I want him to be happy so I decided to deny myself for his happiness. To me being a friend, being there for him is the greatest love I can prove my love to him. Looking to his eyes and his smile is the best reward I could ever receive.And maybe he'll understand the love i have given him as a friend and realize that I truly loved him for him.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    Ok so you love him. Now whats the point of saying it on here? you didnt even ask a question you just stated you love someone who doesnt see you in the same way.

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    • Christofel29
      12 years ago | pl

      then my question is this, is it normal to love by giving up your love for another one's sake to be happy?

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      • Christofel29
        12 years ago | pl

        and from what I have understand the title itself asks the question and not the content. This in fact would make it redundant to ask a question in a title and ask it again in its content. wouldn't you think so?

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  • stonecutters93
    12 years ago | pl

    I know how you feel, I recently told my best friend I was in love with her. My problem though was she had feelings for me and I waited too long because I didn't want to ruin our friendship, so she got over them, then I realized how amazing this person was and how much I loved her. I told her how I felt but she doesn't have those feelings anymore. My advice is just continue to be his best friend, it'll be hard but down the road he may realize what an amazing person you are and realize he loves you to. It's what happened to me.
    Best of luck to you!

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  • JayantKumarZ
    12 years ago | pl

    mmm i wunt believe nythin cept tht this is a troll o.o'

    rely cuz it sounds kinda... scripted n planned/imagined n emotional... n dramatic u kno >.>;

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    • Christofel29
      12 years ago | pl

      i really wish it was.... but life never was scripted...its dramatic but I cannot change the fact that this has happened and I let it go this far, I've given up so many time on love because I was too selfish that I decided to let it go and think of the other first.

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  • wreckd
    12 years ago | pl

    I think he cares for you but not in the way you want him to. Being friends with the person you love because you can't be with them can be hard but it can also be a blessing. :) Stay close. I'm sure one day those feelings will be reciprocated.

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    • Christofel29
      12 years ago | pl

      thanks! i really appreciated what you've said. yes I'll think of it in your perspective....your great at giving advices.....

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  • MakienzyGirl11
    12 years ago | pl

    If you never try yOu will never know what could have been

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  • chezycheze
    12 years ago | pl

    I like your passion. Well, its hard for me to give advice in this situation since I don't know the guy and I don't know how deeply you have thought about your liking of him, but I would suggest you think very deeply to make sure he is really your love. Also, if he is not and never will be interested in you, then you will probably get hurt at some point so it is important that you realize this. And finally, if you can't openly talk to him about what you are feeling, then it probably isn't a love that will last.

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    • Christofel29
      12 years ago | pl

      I did openly talk to him about this. He does know that I like him, he cherishes me like a friend would but he tries continuously to avoid talks such as these. I try my very best to be a good friend who understands. And yes you are right, this love isn't fit to last nor is it worth my time...But you know as I know, our feelings towards another cannot be controlled like a computer.I fell because he made me happy though i now suffer deep inside for his happiness. I have tried my very best to avoid him without losing him as a friend, and even 'till now I am struggling. But with time I know it'll be better and I'll soon move on. Thank you for your kind and sympathetic advice, your a good person and i hope that we could be good friends too.

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  • youdneverguess
    12 years ago | pl

    Friendship is the best feeling and you will find that person that you know can give you that love

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  • TheIntellect
    12 years ago | pl

    Your writing sounds very romantically and fantasy estranged.. Please come back to the real world. This is harsh but maintain your friendship and move on. Do not live in a wishful fairytale.

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  • [oozingNORMALITY]
    12 years ago | pl

    You will only enjoy love if it's two sided. If he is not interested in you as a partner then it's not love but more pain. So yes it's normal, because you can't force people to love u.

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  • 1776
    12 years ago | pl

    youre gonna get hurt! :( be carful with love.

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    • Christofel29
      12 years ago | pl

      i'll do my best and if I do get hurt it'll be a blessing to learn for myself

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