Is it normal to give up on yourself at 18

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I have given up on myself, can't do anything these days I have always had this attitude where I start something really motivated and completely focused and after a while I can't be bothered finishing it.

Now I'm 18 and have left school, living at home and I don't have a job,car,girl friend or life.... I sell things online to make what I would call pocket money.

I'm really good at lots of things it's almost unnatural.I'm not fat (size xs actually) not bad looking,unclean or stupid, quite the opposite tho my English and grammatical skills need lots of work, sorry if there is any mistakes.

Ever since I was 6 I have been one big mess shy,self conscious and introverted because of which, plus I can't think clearly around people because of all my insecurities. I don't drink,smoke,drive or believe in any god.

I just need help, is it normal to be so messed up,insecure and Unmotivated that I have given up on myself and now just waiting (wanting) for something/someone to force a change...

BTW I'm a guy if this effects anything.

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Shifter

13 years ago

Just do something completely unlike you, be impulsive and don't think twice about anything. You need a change to your routine and a kick up the backside. I know how you feel and how easy it is to just exist rather then live.

Oh and nobody is going to appear, wave a magic wand and give you the motivation that you so obviously need. Its down to you dude.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  13 years ago
  
  thanks for your comments, I'm going to buy a $200 dollar jacket which is impulsive for me tho I did just plan it? so...... maybe it doesn't count. things have changed now and have gotten worse read the comment above to BlackRoseVale it seems that everyone with the exception of my bother just exist in my family.
  
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Soakedincrimson

13 years ago

everyone gives up on themselves at some point in life
don't worry you'll get through it
just try some new things
a change of scenery is always good to lift your spirits

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  13 years ago
  
  thanks, i know i'll get thought i but as cliche as it might sound At what cost? (my family?) As for change of scenery I live in the country surrounded by pine trees which are being cut down right now so in a couple of days everything will be different.
  
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    13 years ago
    
    THOUGH
    
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[Old Memory]

13 years ago

Don't give up on yourself just yet. It just sounds like you're going through a frustrating time. First things, take some deep breaths, they'll help I promise.

If it helps maybe you could try to see a career advisor or something similar. I've been in that place before, just stuck but the only person who can change anything is you.

Even just talking to someone or writing stuff down helps to clear the head. Good luck! :D

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  13 years ago
  
  thanks for your help "It just sounds like you're going through a frustrating time" I was at the time I wrote this 2 days ago but since then things have only gotten worst and I'm really depressed because of some things I have found out. 4 weeks ago my dad changed from working for this company (that he has been with for over 15 years) to being contracted by it, because the stress was effecting his health but Now he is doing paper work at home 24/7 with a shit computer system that all ways mucks up and his health is becoming worst and I fear that if he continues this way he is going to have a heart attack, plus he isn't making anywhere near enough money to support us let alone pay the $100,000 debt we have and It's my 19 birthday on the 4th and my dad always spends a lot of money on me so I'm going to feel really guilty.
  
  The sort of good news is that when my NZ granddad dies my dad gets 1/4 of everything. this is the bit which makes me really sad my mum side of the family (English) has basicly disowned my mum because she left England and came to new Zealand (21 plus years ago) she hasn't been back ever since, I have never met anyone from my mums side of the family so I only know half the story I've known this for awhile but their is something my mothers not telling me and i have no way of finding out
  Both my grandmothers died before i was born so other then my mum,dad and younger bother all I had was my NZ family all of which except my Granddad, want me to be someone I'm not.
  
  I always looked up to my granddad I thought he was sort of like me, (or I was like him) until yesterday when i heard a small segment of what he had said to my cousin, keep in mind granddad is old 86+ and he starting to let things slip that he would never say if the lights where on, anyway he started talking about how him and his mates In the army (ww2) used to rape and do all these other horrible things to woman and it makes me sick and i now have no respect for him. I've been thinking about comments made by members of my family about why my NZ family left Scotland in the first place (100+ yrs ago) something about steeling sheep but I fear there was more to it.
  
  It seems my family has way too many skeletons in the closet and I'm sure I don't even Know the half of it.
  
  It's not easy for me knowing that everything/ everyone around me is falling apart and that I probably have a dark side (genetically) when pushed too far.
  
  BTW sorry, I feel like I'm dumping this crap onto you.
  
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Legion

12 years ago

i know how you feel, im 19 and am in a similar situation. Dont give up man, keep going. You may feel like quiting, but just go a little farther and you will get to where you need to go.

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chezycheze

12 years ago

There are people out there who will take time to help motivate you, listen to you, encourage you, and allow you to express yourself. I think that friendships of this sort have a large potential to help you.

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czarbennus

13 years ago

Dude just find something you want to do and go do it!! What's the worst that could happen? You could strike unsuccesful and be where you are now?! Risk worth taking! You need to make a drastic change in your life in order to feel like it's worth living!! Now! Gooo!&!!

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theredwolf

13 years ago

Sad part is....I'm that guy, just at 20. You gotta realize there is more to life...or that life will pick up..or something. I haven't had any luck but you seem like someone who would be able to do what i couldn't and pull yourself from this slump.

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luicyyou

13 years ago

Aww this is totally normal actually A lot of people feel this same way and are in this same exact situation who are evan older Things will get better just keep up with yourself like with what your doing

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roothead1

13 years ago

I'm 18 and sometimes feel the same way. Then you gotta remember that your alive and just enjoy your time while your here.

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mprocida

13 years ago

Dude I'm the same age and have given up on me too

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kerri

13 years ago

You are going to be the CEO over the people that think they are so cool now!

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