I think you're being what's known as a 'doormat' to an extent. How long will you let people control you so much? It will be hard, but you could gradually start to make your own decisions more and trust that they're fine. Someone who values you as a friend and a person shouldn't judge you or reject you because you, for example, don't want to be a vegan. It's not right that everything should be on their terms. Thing is, they might not realise there's a problem but just think you always agree etc.! I think you know what you need to do. If people start questioning things and thinking you're being difficult, then probably best to mention to them that you used to go a long with others too much to the point where you did nothing else.
IIN to give in to everyone to the point of misery and hide it?
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I think you're being what's known as a 'doormat' to an extent. How long will you let people control you so much? It will be hard, but you could gradually start to make your own decisions more and trust that they're fine. Someone who values you as a friend and a person shouldn't judge you or reject you because you, for example, don't want to be a vegan. It's not right that everything should be on their terms. Thing is, they might not realise there's a problem but just think you always agree etc.! I think you know what you need to do. If people start questioning things and thinking you're being difficult, then probably best to mention to them that you used to go a long with others too much to the point where you did nothing else.